Awe come on man don't feel that way, there are always days that suck like that hopefully tomorrow will be better my friend and we're always here for you buddy. I hope at least the rest of your birthday goes much better for you
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nite nite!Good night everyone. It's been a long day.will be on in the morning
Good night Pete my friend rest well see you tomorrow buddyGood night everyone. It's been a long day.
He's a mutt pup that was a mistake. His father was a mutt stray Airedale that bred a Golden Lab Great Pyrenees female. We had not gotten the female fixed before he got to her. She comes from questionable background, would exit from an area fenced by invisible fencing. She finally came here to live with us.
I don't act aggressive around the dogs. I will play with them. I will discipline with mild instep bumps of the foot, open palm rump smack, fingers used as mouth, scuffing. All the dogs are given equal love, equal discipline. They are all treated the same and loved. That may be the downfall though.
Doing pretty good except for my swollen feet hun, thanks for asking glad your mouth has healed and not hurting as much.
You're allowed to feel angry or upset or sad or any of that. Ranting it out here is good if the people in your life don't let you. But I'm pretty sure there are plenty of people who are so very glad you were born, and are still around. I'm sad for you your birthday wasn't a good day. But please believe you are here for a reason, turning only 44, still so many years and possibly better years ahead.
I've been in that thought process a million times myself. Feel free to pm to vent or rant or cry. I can't promise to make it better but I promise I'll do any of the above with you, or just listen. Xoxoxo
Goodnight, Jimi. Rest well my friend!
((((( Jimi ))))) Night Jimi. Get those tootsies some rest.
Goodnight, Pete. Rest well!Good night everyone. It's been a long day.
You dear are a sweetheart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good night all
Night sweet Jimi
But see that's it too. I have been trained, taught better of letting emotions have control. That is why it is so damn rough with me. I know this is natural, yet also know I stand guard over anger. It was what cognitive behavior training was used to help with for me, teaching me ways to cope that are healthy & constructive. Cleaning the bathroom to a sparkling temple of tranquility because I was angry which frightened my wife for example. Also aware I bottle up, let stuff simmer, hold on too much.
Also know the Polly Anna form of people who are trained in dealing with enraged, mentality, emotionally disturbed. Was trained to do it myself, have had it applied to me. It was a very discomforting moment in both cases, discomforting in that it genuinely shatters humanity from creating distance. I feel frustrated and crappy because life has been fair, because I did my best, yet it was not enough. I feel frustrated and crappy for feeling frustrated and crappy, that doesn't happen to me. I keep stuff at bay, in check, because I have to.
I'm too passionate, to a fault. So, I exercise self control. A p cyclist told me I had to let go, to accept being angry could be natural, healthy. For others it may be. For me, it only makes life worse ergo, not allowed. No letting go. But yet the psychology & logic suggest that, even suggest downplaying the emotion, defusing with pleasantness, creating rapport with neutrality, common ground. Yep, know the drill, used it, got is used on me. Which is why it hurts so much.
I'm 44, yay. Done nothing but had to fight demons put inside by fair life, by not being up to par. And in that not done enough to help self or those I love. Then one dog is well, an a hole dog for whatever reason. I'm left going to bits. We had gone to Parkersburg today as well. I took the anxiety medicine. Did not change the fact that it was too many people in the city. I felt shoved into a tight spot, breath being shoved out of me. How do I control objective fact? How does anyone? Much less how is the appropriate way to feel, think about that you cannot control?
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I'm bad about holding in anger, too... and then when it emerges, it's like fucking Vesuvius! So I've had to learn, and train my husband to deal with, when I get mad, to go ahead and let it out before it becomes violent rage -- to talk or holler or whatever, just not to hold it in. It really does work better than covering everything in the near vicinity with burning ash.
I've always been prone to holding in negative emotions -- my parents didn't ALLOW me to be angry, I didn't have the right -- which has led to an entire lifetime of depression. Really, it's better to go on and let it out right away, than eat it, get depressed, then explode like a fucking A-bomb.Hugs, and happy birthday.
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Ok I understand passionate more than most. That means we feel everything more than most. Anger included. Forget about the doctors and whatever else for a minute. Try to forget the training. Sometimes diffusing it just doesn't fuckin help. Go out to a quiet place and scream your head off. Pound some shit. Break old dishes you don't care about. You bottle it up like that and clean a fuckin bathroom and that shit will choke you to death.
I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just another person who feels the same way a whole awful lot. I've learned how to handle it, and I can't tell you how to do that because we're all different. Just letting you know I'm here for you
I see where you're going. You're more than likely correct too. Feel you are.
I'm bad about holding in anger, too... and then when it emerges, it's like fucking Vesuvius! So I've had to learn, and train my husband to deal with, when I get mad, to go ahead and let it out before it becomes violent rage -- to talk or holler or whatever, just not to hold it in. It really does work better than covering everything in the near vicinity with burning ash.
Hugs, and happy birthday.
Andria
Yep. Figure that too the big but in the room is "Hey, excuse the fuck out of me, i need to fucking pound the shit out of a mud wall because you're pissing me off, because the fucking light is getting in your eyes and ..." --- just does not translate diplomatically. And it would pour out, without thought or care, and it would be nasty and create worse fucked up situation.
And you cannot always 'find' a diplomatic way to excuse yourself when gripped in that angry.
And "I can't" is not allowed either, We both know life, it doesn't take "I can't".
She goes around and round and round and roundyou just a wanderer
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Quick cruise by.... gnite itsme, Jimi, Pete, midknight and anyone I may have missed! I love and miss you guys.
Shit! Hang on! Dammit.........
Ahhhhhh Here's the spare! (Makes mental Note; needs more eye/brain bleach!)
Took a while but finally caught up. Hello all. Here for a bit while I wind down from work.
I'm not crazy, my mother had me tested.
I'm not crazy, my mother had me tested.
@MoreleyMagicMist. I'm 44 too.....and kinda know what you're saying. Past the mid-point of life, and here I think.....Do things get better?......Probably not. I'm happy with things, I'm not with other things. That's life, unfortunately. Lots of "what if I did this differently a long time ago's?" are in my mind on a daily basis. Maybe it's not good, IDK?.....but I TRY to look at all the positive stuff in my life, although I do think about the negatives a lot. I'm in pretty good health, I have a job
, I have a place to live, I have a lot of good friends (some great!), and I have my son (who I love dearly!). Do I wish that some things are better in my life......Yup!......Is my life that I have, a terrible one?......Nope. Things can be worse. Although nothing is perfect, I know that there are ALOT of other people out there, that have it ALOT worse than I do. If I need to talk to someone about serious stuff, I have friends that listen and help by either just listening, or they let you know that you're not alone when it comes to some of the issues that I face. We all have our "bad days" and for some of us, longer than that. You've got a lot of people here that are good listeners, and some that can try to help you get through what you are going through. I do hope that things do get better for ya!
, I have a place to live, I have a lot of good friends (some great!), and I have my son (who I love dearly!). Do I wish that some things are better in my life......Yup!......Is my life that I have, a terrible one?......Nope. Things can be worse. Although nothing is perfect, I know that there are ALOT of other people out there, that have it ALOT worse than I do. If I need to talk to someone about serious stuff, I have friends that listen and help by either just listening, or they let you know that you're not alone when it comes to some of the issues that I face. We all have our "bad days" and for some of us, longer than that. You've got a lot of people here that are good listeners, and some that can try to help you get through what you are going through. I do hope that things do get better for ya!
So a horrific end to a horrific week The kid was in the hospital Friday morning from his diabetes. Then I spoke to his counselor in the afternoon and was assured he was clean and doing good. Then by the evening he was thrown out of the sober house he was in because he managed to get Xanax and it's been a bad bad bad week at work and a night of on the phone with all kinds of people in California. He has agreed to go to the 60 day men's program but it's 1 am now in California and he's going to have to go sit in a park until like 9 am before anyone can help him. I told him that's it there's nothing more I can do for him and wished him luck. I'm done physically and emotionally. He knows I'm serious about leaving him homeless. But the worst is he lost his phone charger and his phone is on 2% so if he doesn't have any battery no one that is going to het him to that program will be able to get a hold of him. I know it's not true but my thinking now is that I'm being punished for something I did somewhere along the way and I just want to give up on everything. I'm going to ne leaving now to head home and hope for the best. See you guys later Saturday night and hopefully with some good news. P.S. still wishing all of you guys a good day !
The kid was in the hospital Friday morning from his diabetes. Then I spoke to his counselor in the afternoon and was assured he was clean and doing good. Then by the evening he was thrown out of the sober house he was in because he managed to get Xanax and it's been a bad bad bad week at work and a night of on the phone with all kinds of people in California. He has agreed to go to the 60 day men's program but it's 1 am now in California and he's going to have to go sit in a park until like 9 am before anyone can help him. I told him that's it there's nothing more I can do for him and wished him luck. I'm done physically and emotionally. He knows I'm serious about leaving him homeless. But the worst is he lost his phone charger and his phone is on 2% so if he doesn't have any battery no one that is going to het him to that program will be able to get a hold of him. I know it's not true but my thinking now is that I'm being punished for something I did somewhere along the way and I just want to give up on everything. I'm going to ne leaving now to head home and hope for the best. See you guys later Saturday night and hopefully with some good news. P.S. still wishing all of you guys a good day !
Thanks Kevin. I hope it works out also. Nothing worse than a parent getting a call their kid is dead. Seen it all to much lately on Staten Island. Over 32 deaths in the past three months. The paper said it averages now to 2.5 deaths a week. Been to a lot of funerals and seen a lot of grieving families and parents. If I even sleep when I get home it will be out of sheer exhaustion
Good morning. How's it going?G'Morning Mark
Yeah.....My son (He's almost 10) woke up about 1:30am. He asked me to come and lay with him so that he could fall back to sleep. So.....2 hours with him and me sleeping in a twin bed.....has done wonders (sarcastically) for me and my back. I'm currently sitting up in the chair.....attempting to get my back to straighten out a bit.
Other than that.......Not too bad ATM. Can't complain too much......(because my wife doesn't really listen anywayGood morning. How's it going?
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Ouch, I feel your pain!
No, I'm off until Sunday night, so I'm doing well!
Good to hear!.......I'm gonna jump outta here for a bit and maybe get someNo, I'm off until Sunday night, so I'm doing well!
. Talk to ya later.
Take care, Kev, I'll catch you later on my friend!Good to hear!.......I'm gonna jump outta here for a bit and maybe get some
IMO, you aren't able to control aggressive dogs , yes might be time to get them to someone who can, before some one sues your ass after getting hurt, tethering them on a chain adds to the aggression, as soon as they are released most times they are gonna go from zone 1 to 10 in 3 seconds. Why have dogs if you can't and don't take time to work some obedience with them? Sorry I work with them and train them and I see your post and had to comment.
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Good morning Mark
Good morning RatGood morning Pete.
Hope you have a great day.
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Totally overslept. Late for work. My whole days fucked now lol
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Hope your day will get better
I still am waiting for that call at 3 in the morning
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