Tornadoalleydeb
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I am not sure where to start. I think I am mainly posting just to get it out. As I am still quite numb and dazed over what has occurred.
Yesterday afternoon the Sheriff came to my door to inform me that my Father had shot and killed my Mother and then turned the gun on himself. He was on the phone with the 911 operator and he said to her. " I just shot my wife and now I am going to end my life also".
Both my parents were 82 years old and some of you know that my Mother had been very ill recently and suffered numerous strokes. There were documents on the table and they were both found sitting in their chairs. I believe they discussed this ahead of time and made the decision. Or at least I want to believe that. I guess I will never know.
There is only myself and my step sister who lives in California as far as children. We are both pretty much at a loss on what to do. The other family members, brothers and sisters ( also all in California ) seem to know better on what needs to be done. Also my daughter is there in Arizona ( where my parents lived ) and she is such a God send as she has also been trying to handle and coordinate things. My husband is on his way there now to help her as he fortunately is knowledgeable with these things.
God bless them both. I told Jen ( my daughter ) she was not to go into the house under any circumstances as she is not prepared to enter a murder/suicide crime scene. My husband is, due to his former work. He will go in first and take care of a few things and then she can enter. Did she listen? Nope, sure didn't, but she went in through a back door and never went near the room they were in. She went to go get all the documents of legal stuff and to make sure the 2 cats had food and water. God bless her, I could not have done it.
I don't really have anyone else to talk to other than you guys right now, even though I can't say much more as I guess there really isn't anything else to say. I mean I get why they did this, I do. They were tired of hurting and they could not fight anymore. But I'm numb.
It helps for me to write this all out and I am so very grateful to those of you I have become very close to that are there for me right now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I guess I just need some time to process all this some more.
Deb
Yesterday afternoon the Sheriff came to my door to inform me that my Father had shot and killed my Mother and then turned the gun on himself. He was on the phone with the 911 operator and he said to her. " I just shot my wife and now I am going to end my life also".
Both my parents were 82 years old and some of you know that my Mother had been very ill recently and suffered numerous strokes. There were documents on the table and they were both found sitting in their chairs. I believe they discussed this ahead of time and made the decision. Or at least I want to believe that. I guess I will never know.
There is only myself and my step sister who lives in California as far as children. We are both pretty much at a loss on what to do. The other family members, brothers and sisters ( also all in California ) seem to know better on what needs to be done. Also my daughter is there in Arizona ( where my parents lived ) and she is such a God send as she has also been trying to handle and coordinate things. My husband is on his way there now to help her as he fortunately is knowledgeable with these things.
God bless them both. I told Jen ( my daughter ) she was not to go into the house under any circumstances as she is not prepared to enter a murder/suicide crime scene. My husband is, due to his former work. He will go in first and take care of a few things and then she can enter. Did she listen? Nope, sure didn't, but she went in through a back door and never went near the room they were in. She went to go get all the documents of legal stuff and to make sure the 2 cats had food and water. God bless her, I could not have done it.
I don't really have anyone else to talk to other than you guys right now, even though I can't say much more as I guess there really isn't anything else to say. I mean I get why they did this, I do. They were tired of hurting and they could not fight anymore. But I'm numb.
It helps for me to write this all out and I am so very grateful to those of you I have become very close to that are there for me right now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I guess I just need some time to process all this some more.
Deb
I don't know, it just really helps right now for me to write it all out I guess. I mean they are in a better place now. I want to believe that. They don't have to hurt anymore. My Step sister keeps saying she should have called more. I told her, don't do that. Don't do that to yourself. We all called and Jen was there a lot and helped any way she could. I mean they knew they were loved and that we cared. Could we have called more or visited more? Of course we could have, but I don't believe it would have made any difference. For there to be papers with some instructions and listing where things were and what they wanted done, they had to of discussed this ahead of time. This was not something spur of the moment.
