Procedure when showing interest in a posted item?

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  1. gsmit1

    gsmit1 Gold Contributor Member For 1 Year

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    Is there any rule or unspoken code of conduct that says a person must state publicly that they are PMing somebody about an interest in their post?

    I see "PM sent" a lot and am wondering if that's what we're SUPPOSED to do, or is it ok to just pm them without saying that you've done so publicly?

    It never really occurred to me until today in a conversation with a friend here and has nothing to do with any transaction of mine,
     
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  2. KingPin!

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    Good practice to, shows other people you are interested as a placeholder so no arguments break out as to who got there first imo
     
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    Posting in a thread allows you to leave seller feedback without having to start a feedback thread. Of course, if the seller has more than one item for sale, then one will need to be started, anyway.
     
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    gsmit1 Gold Contributor Member For 1 Year

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    What I mean is, if somebody posts something for sale, do we just PM them that we're interested, or should we also say that we have done so in the sale thread?

    Like Kingpin was addressing. Or am I misunderstanding you ?
    This is the point I was after.
     
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    Sure, you can just PM them. If 2 people pm the same item, I'd assume the seller would go by the time stamp.

    I get a lot of PM's from people asking why they can't leave feedback, so I suppose that's why I posted my response. If someone doesn't post in a sale thread, they can't use that thread to post feedback, thus leaving one of the members to start a "feedback thread" anyway.
     
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    I have to agree: the thread is where you show [ordered] interest; the PM is a followup [1st]; the OP can reply in timestamp-order, and even give someone N hours to reply before moving on to the next. The public thread is then a useful queue/info mechanism for sellers and buyers, while the PM's are the privacy "pipes".
     
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    If it's something you want then i'd PM them anyway.

    Just because someone sent a PM before you doesn't mean they bought the item.

    I have seen "PM sent" in a sale thread and then the seller come back a post or two later with "Item's still for sale" loads of times.

    You really don't have to type a "PM sent" post because it's on the seller to tell everyone when the item is sold but some people do.

    It's up to you.
     
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    I say pm inbound or someyhins like that to show interest publicly. N it marks the time. Also if its a good or larger sale i know lots of pm start flowing in n may slip by un noticed at first.
    I just feel it is the nice thing to do, so i do it.
     
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    I kinda do the same, except I PM first and say PM sent in the thread - I just like to be first if it's something I really want to get in on
     
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    Thank you everybody. This is exactly the discussion I was looking for.
     
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    my boy g started this thread during discussions we had in PM's.

    I dib'd a mod, publicly. 1 1/2hrs later someone 2nd dib'd it. all good. 2nd poster also PM at the same time. a while later the seller came online. 1hr 20min later, I still get no reply from him. so I though the 2nd, or someone else had either PM'd before me or behind my back. trying to pull the mod out from under me.

    my view on claiming dibs = publicly always comes first. it's out in the open for all to see, integrity and honesty.
    PM'ing alone can be shady, not always, but sometimes.

    now, saying that. the seller can an to pound sand and sell to whomever they want. but that just isn't fair.

    damn computer is messing up. the seller can tell anyone^
     
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    I say dibs publicly works. But needs to be backed up immediately with pm. Its like a handshake to seal the sale.
     
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    In my mind the seller has the right to sell to whomever they prefer. There might have been a trade or higher bid in pm. Not all sellers want a bidding war.
     
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