I'm not former military, so I apologize if I'm not supposed to post here, but I have an Air Force-related question and figured this was the place to go for an answer. Also, my father conducted the US Army Band for Nixon, Ford, and Carter so I'm at least connected to the service, if not an actual member.
Anyway, my wife is going through a wicked custody battle and trying to get her original divorce decree modified or completely vacated. Part of that decree, written by her ex-husband (who two unrelated psychologists have told us shows all the symptoms of suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, one of whom gave him a personality test that showed the same) using legalzoom.com rather than the free legal aid from the Air Force, told her she wasn't entitled to any of his military retirement even though they were married for 12 of his 20 years in the Air Force. She's the trusting sort and she believed him, so she got cut out of her 50% of 12 years of his retirement at the rank of Captain. My question is this: Is there any way he was actually unaware of the 10/10 rule at the time he told her she wasn't due any of his military retirement, or is it common knowledge among members of the Air Force and highly unlikely that he was unaware. We know he was lying because he claimed to have asked the JAG corps about it and received that response, but is it possible that he just didn't check up on it and didn't know she was due half his retirement for the duration of their marriage during his service, or was he likely fully aware of the 10/10 rule and lying through his teeth?
He has since changed his story, btw, and now claims she felt terrible about a past indiscretion on her part and she stated she didn't want any of his retirement because of her guilt. That happened 7 years before he became physically abusive and she filed for divorce, so the likelihood of his new version of events is even less plausible than his first one. Any advice/experience here would be greatly appreciated.
Anyway, my wife is going through a wicked custody battle and trying to get her original divorce decree modified or completely vacated. Part of that decree, written by her ex-husband (who two unrelated psychologists have told us shows all the symptoms of suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, one of whom gave him a personality test that showed the same) using legalzoom.com rather than the free legal aid from the Air Force, told her she wasn't entitled to any of his military retirement even though they were married for 12 of his 20 years in the Air Force. She's the trusting sort and she believed him, so she got cut out of her 50% of 12 years of his retirement at the rank of Captain. My question is this: Is there any way he was actually unaware of the 10/10 rule at the time he told her she wasn't due any of his military retirement, or is it common knowledge among members of the Air Force and highly unlikely that he was unaware. We know he was lying because he claimed to have asked the JAG corps about it and received that response, but is it possible that he just didn't check up on it and didn't know she was due half his retirement for the duration of their marriage during his service, or was he likely fully aware of the 10/10 rule and lying through his teeth?
He has since changed his story, btw, and now claims she felt terrible about a past indiscretion on her part and she stated she didn't want any of his retirement because of her guilt. That happened 7 years before he became physically abusive and she filed for divorce, so the likelihood of his new version of events is even less plausible than his first one. Any advice/experience here would be greatly appreciated.