Totally right my friend. I feel like I was transformed after my first kid was born. I was nervous and scared, but I learned so much from raising him. The second had an even better dad, since I kind of figured out somethings to do differently. Now my little girl on the other hand is gonna be spoiled, and part of my plan is to make her expectations for a good man so high she will either end up being a nun or the better thing avoid jerks and end up marring a better man than me. Girls are so much scarier to raise than boys though imo.