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Atchafalaya

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But it's not the Boomer generation now, it's the Millenials -- most Boomers were taught better than that by their own parents, who were not reluctant to apply the "rod" when it seemed that Jr and/or Jr Miss were getting too big for their britches! I confess, I was sometimes very short with my grandmother, but NEVER with my grandfather, whom I practically worshipped -- but if my mom was around, that shit towards my grandmother met an instant slap on whatever part of my person within my mom's reach. My grandfather would just give me a glare and a "hmph" which, from him, was a Fate Worse Than Death.

But I saw something similar from my mom toward my stepdad's mom. I met the woman myself on quite a few occasions, and no, she really wasn't very pleasant to my mom -- the 2nd wife -- nor to me, the 2nd wife's child -- though I probably got the better end of the deal just because I WAS a child, and also because of my grandfather, whom practically everyone practically worshipped, and who cut her grass for her, every week, a man nearly as old as she was. She wasn't really a very pleasant person in general... but as an adult, my perspective on that has changed radically -- getting old means everything hurts, and the older you get, the more it hurts -- and losing your spouse, to me, is a total deal-breaker -- I couldn't live without my own husband. So maybe the old lady had good reason not to be very pleasant to anyone. And my mom? Absolute narcissist, to everyone, all the time -- she didn't know any other way to be. And no she wasn't evil, nor malicious, she was actually a pretty "good" person in most ways -- but everything had to be Joan's way, all the time, or everyone and anyone around her suffered for it. My stepfather knew it, he admitted as much to us after his heart attack, but he loved her, and more importantly, he had to LIVE WITH her, so he enabled her narcissism almost completely.

So maybe in your son's case, he's in love with her, and because he is, he has to live with her, so he turns a blind eye.

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Yeah I think that's the deal. He has to live with her. And now that he has a daughter, well..............But yes, things have to be "her" way or no way.
 

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Im gonna make her cook a pot of gumbo. Its good for the soul :p
That depends on what is considered 'soul food' for where one is from.

For me it would be more pinto beans with country ham, Kraut or pickled corn, cornbread, fresh ripe tomatoes and onions. with a big cold glass of milk.
And maybe fried pork tenderloin....
 

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That depends on what is considered 'soul food' for where one is from.

For me it would be more pinto beans with country ham, Kraut or pickled corn, cornbread, fresh ripe tomatoes and onions. with a big cold glass of milk.
And maybe fried pork tenderloin....

Atchaffy is a Louisiana girl. She knows a good bowl of gumbo always helps :)

Havent had some good kraut in a long while. When I was a kid my mom use to bake porkchops in it. Always loved that.
 

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Atchaffy is a Louisiana girl. She knows a good bowl of gumbo always helps :)

Havent had some good kraut in a long while. When I was a kid my mom use to bake porkchops in it. Always loved that.

I love gumbo, but I have to make my own if I eat any, because most real cajuns make it altogether too hot for me. My son loves it that way, and my husband would probably eat it too, but my feeling on cayenne pepper is "a dab'll do ya!" A pinch in a whole dang dutch over full of gumbo is about right.

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I love gumbo, but I have to make my own if I eat any, because most real cajuns make it altogether too hot for me. My son loves it that way, and my husband would probably eat it too, but my feeling on cayenne pepper is "a dab'll do ya!" A pinch in a whole dang dutch over full of gumbo is about right.

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What I put down is the recipe of a good basic gumbo and is exactly how I made it. I never put nor had any gumbo with cayenne in it. Now for etouffee, oh hell yeah, lots of cajun seasonings like cayenne. I dont use fil'e powder either. Seems thats from another time because in around 35 years in Louisana eating gumbo, I really cant name one person I know who does use it. I have it on hand, just seldom think about it. One thing I do like is soy sauce in my gumbo. I started doing that many years ago when I was working offshore. Had a cook pissed at me because the rest of the crew started using soy sauce in their gumbo too. :giggle:
 

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What I put down is the recipe of a good basic gumbo and is exactly how I made it. I never put nor had any gumbo with cayenne in it. Now for etouffee, oh hell yeah, lots of cajun seasonings like cayenne. I dont use fil'e powder either. Seems thats from another time because in around 35 years in Louisana eating gumbo, I really cant name one person I know who does use it. I have it on hand, just seldom think about it. One thing I do like is soy sauce in my gumbo. I started doing that many years ago when I was working offshore. Had a cook pissed at me because the rest of the crew started using soy sauce in their gumbo too. :giggle:

What about jambalaya? Do you make it hot? I never do, but then my son goes nuts on his plate with the damn redhot sauce. :facepalm: Haven't made that in over a decade, so maybe it's time. :D

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The original Cajun recipe for gumbo wasn't hot. I usually make the roux and start on it and then split it in half and make one hot and one not hot.
 

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Anyway I'm going to have to wait for the weather cools off before I make any gumbo. It was 114 here yesterday we broke a record

We had a cold front come thru yesterday so its only suppose to get up to 90 today :p

We are not seeing temps as bad as you are Atchaffy but still hotter then hell here. 97 yesterday. I waited until 7 pm to cut any grass because it was just too damn hot. The heat seems to sap my strength away faster than it use to.
 

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We had a cold front come thru yesterday so its only suppose to get up to 90 today :p

We are not seeing temps as bad as you are Atchaffy but still hotter then hell here. 97 yesterday. I waited until 7 pm to cut any grass because it was just too damn hot. The heat seems to sap my strength away faster than it use to.
We're only getting up to 101 today thank God! Yesterday was brutal. Especially with a metal mobile home. OMG I could have fried an egg on it. And dealing with a sick dog who can't hardly walk is also really difficult. I can't leave him out there in the heat too long.
Yesterday after work I let Mr. Freeman out and started up the sink water to do dishes. I opened the door to let him in and couldn't find him so I panicked and ran out there yelling his name. Well, I finally found him behind a bush but had forgotten the water was on so we came in to a mini-flood. :(
I'm just not knowing what to do for him anymore. It's not just the arthritis now. He has chewed his feet to bleeding shreds. Now he has the cone of shame on him but is miserable. My neck is too bad to try and get him in the car to bring to the vet again and my brother-in-law has been sick with his new diabetes meds.
One day I'm ready to let him go, and the next I'm just not sure.......
 

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We had a cold front come thru yesterday so its only suppose to get up to 90 today :p

We are not seeing temps as bad as you are Atchaffy but still hotter then hell here. 97 yesterday. I waited until 7 pm to cut any grass because it was just too damn hot. The heat seems to sap my strength away faster than it use to.

We're getting that dip in the jetstream here; only 82 yesterday, not supposed to go over 85 today, but I'm thinking it might not even get that hot, because it's supposed to rain about 3, which is usually just about the peak of the heat. Usually the jetstream dip and cooling is in mid-August, but I guess it's early this year.

As for roux... just what the hell is that? I've never seen a satisfactory explanation.

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We're getting that dip in the jetstream here; only 82 yesterday, not supposed to go over 85 today, but I'm thinking it might not even get that hot, because it's supposed to rain about 3, which is usually just about the peak of the heat. Usually the jetstream dip and cooling is in mid-August, but I guess it's early this year.

As for roux... just what the hell is that? I've never seen a satisfactory explanation.

Andria

A roux is oil and flour browned. I hate making a roux but at times I use it a lot so I cheat and either buy the bottled roux or Zatarans makes a real good powder roux. When I was younger and hunted a lot I would make a quick roux then add water to it and wild game and let it smother in gravy while cooking. Always came out damn good.
 

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We're only getting up to 101 today thank God! Yesterday was brutal. Especially with a metal mobile home. OMG I could have fried an egg on it. And dealing with a sick dog who can't hardly walk is also really difficult. I can't leave him out there in the heat too long.
Yesterday after work I let Mr. Freeman out and started up the sink water to do dishes. I opened the door to let him in and couldn't find him so I panicked and ran out there yelling his name. Well, I finally found him behind a bush but had forgotten the water was on so we came in to a mini-flood. :(
I'm just not knowing what to do for him anymore. It's not just the arthritis now. He has chewed his feet to bleeding shreds. Now he has the cone of shame on him but is miserable. My neck is too bad to try and get him in the car to bring to the vet again and my brother-in-law has been sick with his new diabetes meds.
One day I'm ready to let him go, and the next I'm just not sure.......


I feel for you Atchaffy. Seems like the weight of the world fell on you :( I couldnt say what I would do with Mr Freeman other than what your already doing. I always believed a pets life is precious and every second that I could give them to live was a blessing but when the pet is suffering, is it really good to keep them going knowing they will continue to suffer. I dont envy you at all and feel bad for ya girl. I dont know what I would do in that situation until I had to face it. :( Prayers are with you girl.
 

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We're getting that dip in the jetstream here; only 82 yesterday, not supposed to go over 85 today, but I'm thinking it might not even get that hot, because it's supposed to rain about 3, which is usually just about the peak of the heat. Usually the jetstream dip and cooling is in mid-August, but I guess it's early this year.

As for roux... just what the hell is that? I've never seen a satisfactory explanation.

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I feel for you Atchaffy. Seems like the weight of the world fell on you :( I couldnt say what I would do with Mr Freeman other than what your already doing. I always believed a pets life is precious and every second that I could give them to live was a blessing but when the pet is suffering, is it really good to keep them going knowing they will continue to suffer. I dont envy you at all and feel bad for ya girl. I dont know what I would do in that situation until I had to face it. :( Prayers are with you girl.
Yeah I have to admit it's been some kind of year. :( I honestly wish I could just run away for a bit. Maybe go to the beach and get away from it all. But even that's not possible right now.
 

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A roux is oil and flour browned. I hate making a roux but at times I use it a lot so I cheat and either buy the bottled roux or Zatarans makes a real good powder roux. When I was younger and hunted a lot I would make a quick roux then add water to it and wild game and let it smother in gravy while cooking. Always came out damn good.

Sounds an awful lot like "gravy" to me!!! Which I buy in glass jars that say "Heinz." ;) I *have* made homemade gravy from pan drippings, but I use corn starch instead of flour; thickens faster, and if you mix it with some cold liquid first (milk usually, but I've also used beer, when making pan-dripping gravy for a pork roast), it doesn't cause lumps nearly as bad as flour does.

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Sounds an awful lot like "gravy" to me!!! Which I buy in glass jars that say "Heinz." ;) I *have* made homemade gravy from pan drippings, but I use corn starch instead of gravy; thickens faster, and if you mix it with some cold liquid first (milk usually, but I've also used beer, when making pan-dripping gravy for a pork roast), it doesn't cause lumps nearly as bad as flour does.

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It's different than gravy although you can make gravy out of a roux. Watch the video. It's a lot darker than gravy
 

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It's different than gravy although you can make gravy out of a roux. Watch the video. It's a lot darker than gravy

I don't think the video would help; I don't use wooden spoons, and if I'm cooking in a skillet, I use only spatulas, don't have anything else I can safely use in my skillet -- it's non-stick, so I use no metal implements in it. I used to have some wooden spoons, but they don't do well in the dishwasher, so I gave up on them. I'd rather use a dishwasher and skip wooden spoons, than vice versa!!! :D

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I don't think the video would help; I don't use wooden spoons, and if I'm cooking in a skillet, I use only spatulas, don't have anything else I can safely use in my skillet -- it's non-stick, so I use no metal implements in it. I used to have some wooden spoons, but they don't do well in the dishwasher, so I gave up on them. I'd rather use a dishwasher and skip wooden spoons, than vice versa!!! :D

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I use an old pot with no coating left and a metal spoon. :) But I will make roux as long as I'm able. Love it!
 

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I use an old pot with no coating left and a metal spoon. :) But I will make roux as long as I'm able. Love it!

ROFL! Once my skillets start sticking when I try to make an omelette, I retire them and buy a new one. Can't be having those messed up omelettes! I can't personally eat eggs other than the whites, but my guys love eggs, and especially omelettes. I make a sort of crepe for myself, to cut in half and put on hash brown patties along with sausage and cheese, and those crepes can't be sticking either or they're not crepes, just whites-only scrambled -- in a word: YUCK! :giggle:

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ROFL! Once my skillets start sticking when I try to make an omelette, I retire them and buy a new one. Can't be having those messed up omelettes! I can't personally eat eggs other than the whites, but my guys love eggs, and especially omelettes. I make a sort of crepe for myself, to cut in half and put on hash brown patties along with sausage and cheese, and those crepes can't be sticking either or they're not crepes, just whites-only scrambled -- in a word: YUCK! :giggle:

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Oh I don't use that pot for other stuff.
I want some crepes now!
 

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Oh I don't use that pot for other stuff.
I want some crepes now!

To be honest, I'm not sure that what I make qualifies as a crepe, other than the fact that it's 95% eggwhite (I drizzle just a smidge of the yolk into it, for flavor), and I cook them the same way I cook omelettes. They're not sweet, but they do taste "egglike", which is what I'm after, to go with the hashbrowns, sausage, and cheese -- gotta be medium cheddar! It's like a "breakfast stack". :giggle:

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To be honest, I'm not sure that what I make qualifies as a crepe, other than the fact that it's 95% eggwhite (I drizzle just a smidge of the yolk into it, for flavor), and I cook them the same way I cook omelettes. They're not sweet, but they do taste "egglike", which is what I'm after, to go with the hashbrowns, sausage, and cheese -- gotta be medium cheddar! It's like a "breakfast stack". :giggle:

Andria
Well whatever it is, I want it! Sounds yummy!
I just went to the grocery and got some frozen burritoes and kolaches. And bag salad. Lazy I am............
 

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Time zones are a huge PITA. According to my banner, I've just completed 365.25 days for the 4th time, as a non-smoker. But I won't consider that feat accomplished until either after midnight, or actually, when I get up tomorrow, which will actually be the first day of my 5th yr smoke-free. But I'll probably post the banner before i go to bed tonight, since I'm going to be a bit busy tomorrow: finally got an eye exam scheduled! :bliss:

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Ok, NOW it's official:

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And follow that with a bit of :banana::bingo::banana::bingo::banana:

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Finally had the money to order an Aegis, and found it for a good price at MyVaporStore. Could not find a "pumpkin edition" anywhere at any price. :cry: So I got "leopard", they're my favorite big cats, and it will still look good with my orange and black driptip. Oh, did I mention the great price? $43.99. My son got the stealth black full kit for $60.

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And I did have the eye exam, which quantified officially what I already knew: mild myopia, severe hyperopia, moderate astigmatism, and sensitivity to light. I got 2 pair, both with lined bifocals, I asked for the kind with the line in so it will help me get used to using bifocals, and one pair has Transition lenses, because I AM SO DAMN TIRED OF MUSICAL GLASSES I COULD JUST SHIT! But instead, we shat $377 for all that. The lady said sometime before the 8th, but she couldn't be more specific than that. :(

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A slight reprieve. I thought the Dog Grooming graduation ceremony was this morning it is this afternoon.
I am especially looking forward to the Anal gland expressing demos :)
 

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