@Tempro,
Some honest and non-dramatic advice for you here. If another person choses to impose their will on you, in example asking you to change, you need to genuinely consider that. About 98% of the time you can figure you don't need that person in your life and they do not genuinely care about you for you being you.
But, you need to give it due consideration. Understand their motives for asking for the change. Here's an example from my own experiences. I had been into a particular substance a while. There's no great adverse effects to coming away from this particular substance, many might say you get addicted to it but from my own experience I find that laughable. At any given my then fiance asked me to stop using that substance, saying that it was her or the substance.
Well, that substance can and often does bring troubles not exactly related to itself, troubles though nonetheless. I paused in life and did a good bit of reflecting for about a week. I understood her point of view in not wanting the excess baggage that substance acquired in ones life. She was more important than the substance, I had to see that and if I did not she was gone. So, yes I changed and walked away from the substance with no ill feelings from anyone who used it with me, no bad effects from it.
Fast forward to about two years ago, she asks me to change again. This time she points out how these new shiny things called e-cigarettes are starting to be good for getting off cigarettes. She buys me a few different cig-a-like types. I cannot bear using these as they just quite literally eat moldy toe jam, imho. I ask her why it is important that I quit smoking and explain I'm getting frustrated with her efforts to keep changing me.
She says it real simple. "I love you and want you hanging around longer. Cigarettes kill people, proven fact. Besides that it'll save us money up front." So, she's got a valid point to her desire to change me. again. I let her find me an eGo battery and evod tank setup. I use these for a while until I'm tempted into squonking, which I find best of all the e-cigarette experience, it suits me well.
Now, you see twice she's changed me for the better of myself, the better of us. Not once has she asked me to not be bisexual. Not once has she said I need to go do such and such to prove my love to her. She genuinely cares about me for me being me. It is that love which guides her to ask for changes to better me, to weed out the negatives but at my pace and terms. She has also never asked me to quit being a dreamer. She knew she married a poet.
So, really give a suggestion to change good consideration. Most of the time, you'll not want in your life and you can move on to someone else. You don't need to make it anything terribly painful or harsh either. You simply move away, distance yourself from a person you find yourself not able to 'change' for to suit their will. In so distancing you make room to grow closer to those who don't want to change the you, that is you.
Always remember this as the lesson of Life being give and take. You'll almost always return to it, sometimes daily, hourly, minute by minute, and sometimes you'll go weeks or months but it always comes 'round to this. You need to balance for yourself the give and take. Try not being only a taker, they are very negative types usually. It is though ultimately your choice and I think you've read enough advice here to use the brain in your head to reason it all out. Okay, I'm done 'playing big brother' for today.
Sorry if I overstepped, kind of seemed it was what you needed. Also,
"hey"
