Original KFL's are finicky devices, and cloned KFL's are often even more so. Five factors that must be part of the equation when setting up a KFL, ranked (loosely) in order from most important to least (differing opinions are welcomed):
1 - Width of juice channels
2 - Amount of airflow
3 - PG/VG ratio of juice
4 - Type of wicking material
5 - Amount of wicking material
I have 7 KFL's: 2 SvoeMesto originals, 1 Russian 91% original, 2 of the Artemus Black Editions (v1), 1 EHPro, and 1 Tobeco. Each brand performs differently and requires different handling. For instance, the Tobeco has wide juice channels, making it ideal for my max VG stuff, but it will flood like a mofo if I run any more than 30% PG through it at my preferred airflow setting. The EHPro is one of their first Lite clones without AFC, and the airflow inlet is too small for the device to be of any use with anything other than 100% VG. Even then, I'll borrow your "sucking a golf ball..." analogy here. I'm not using that device any more for this reason.
There is a subtle balance you must strike with airflow, juice viscosity, and the actual physical machining characteristics of your particular device to find that sweet spot. As far as wicking, the ability for your juice to flow freely into the evaporation chamber is paramount. Even an overstuffed chamber can be effective (although not necessarily optimal) as long as your airflow is working in harmony with your juice viscosity.
Finally, I always recommend using cotton yarn in a KFL over loose cotton to ease rewicking and to keep the amount of wick measurably consistent. I would not recommend silica as it doesn't saturate as quickly as cotton, and you absolutely need as much wicking speed as possible. I always recommend using a macro coil (wide bore, fewer wraps) instead of micro or standard. The idea is that you want the shortest, fattest wick possible, and you need a wide bore coil to accomplish that. I aim for around 1 ohm, though I've gone as low as .5 with good results using my particular build method (which is unique enough that I may eventually make a how-to video).
Just trying to help in case you haven't given up entirely.