Yeah, not to pile on you, 2nd in Command, you seem like a nice enough guy but, even your name "2ndincommand" which I assume is a reference to your wife being in charge , is kinda sad.
Marriage shouldn't be one half dictating orders to another, it's supposed to be a partnership, a give and a take, I thought. I know, different strokes, buy jeez, it seems your whole identity is wrapped up in your subservience. You place more importance on the length of time you've been married than the quality of your relationship. Just because you do something for a long time doesn't make it commendable.
As for your fear of posting a picture because you're afraid of someone knocking on your door, it's crazy, but ok, it's a rule your wife enforces, so I understand. But, if you are going to join an online forum and comment, but choose not contribute, it's your right, but I just don't understand it. Much like a marriage should be, the forum community is both a give and take...a place to get information, but also contribute; that's what makes it great.
Happy Thanksgiving.