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Jimi

Jimi

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2WhiteWolves said:
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This is never going to happen. I'm not the ugliest, but not the prettiest. We all know those that are pretty, gorgeous, beautiful will always get treated better than the "ugly" not the prettiest. I've just seen it too many times how the "uglies" not prettiest get treated. Just as I've seen how the elderly get treated, no respect, treated rudely, like they don't exist.
Yes, when I'm out and about, I notice these things, pay attention. Also make eye contact with people. Lol, I like watching people.

One example....Mom handed the waitress a hundred dollar bill for a tip. The waitress didn't ask if mom knew she gave her a hundred. I noticed it before the waitress tucked it away in her pocket. I said, um that's 100 dollar bill, mom. Then told waitress to give it back to her she cannot afford that much for a tip. To me this is being disrespectful.
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Beauty is so misunderstood. I am so very sorry you feel this way my Dear Friend. I guess it's just me but I see beauty in people on the inside and believe me you and everyone here are beautiful because you all have beautiful hearts. Their beauty is only skin deep but the way I find beauty (in the heart) it goes very deep, too the other side. Look at your heart in the mirror and I am more than sure you will see true beauty my Dear Friend :hug: :hug:
 
Jimi

Jimi

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Good Mornin Family :wave:
Cold day here 26 when I got up:(
How's all my wonderful friends doin today?

May be an image of text that says 'To ALL MY WONDERFUL FAMILY & FRIENOS 開. BE HAPPY. BE SAFE & HAVE A TERRIFIC TUESDAY! X GooD MORNiNG! Tuesday Coffee's Ready! THEHORSEMAFIA.ORG There HORSE Mafia® THRHORSEMAFIA.ORG'
 
Bliss Doubt

Bliss Doubt

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2WhiteWolves said:
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This is never going to happen. I'm not the ugliest, but not the prettiest. We all know those that are pretty, gorgeous, beautiful will always get treated better than the "ugly" not the prettiest. I've just seen it too many times how the "uglies" not prettiest get treated. Just as I've seen how the elderly get treated, no respect, treated rudely, like they don't exist.
Yes, when I'm out and about, I notice these things, pay attention. Also make eye contact with people. Lol, I like watching people.

One example....Mom handed the waitress a hundred dollar bill for a tip. The waitress didn't ask if mom knew she gave her a hundred. I noticed it before the waitress tucked it away in her pocket. I said, um that's 100 dollar bill, mom. Then told waitress to give it back to her she cannot afford that much for a tip. To me this is being disrespectful.
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That's really sad. That waitress should have at least made a fuss, like "wow what a tip, thanks!" but she suspected it wasn't intended, and so said nothing and pocketed it quickly.

I understand what you're saying. It seems my life degrades the older I get, in terms of being among people. Young, fresh and cute takes you to the front of the line, figuratively speaking, but now a man will shove in front of me in a line and just make like he got there first.

A woman friend once spoke of being pampered, having doors held open for her, being offered a jump in the line, when she was pregnant, but then people let doors slam in her face when she had the baby in her arms.

It's sad, but it's life. I enjoy the fresh sweetness of young people now, love to help them figure things out when the occasions arise, take my turn at being the older and wiser.
 
Jimi

Jimi

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Every. Night.
It’s frustrating and exhausting. And weirdly... it’s kinda lonely too, wide awake with your thoughts when everyone else is sleeping.
So if you’re struggling with this right now, I know how bad it feels.
And I want to offer you some tips that worked for me…
That helped me go from 2 AM zombie to the best sleep of my life.
Your Sleep Has a Rhythm…& Cortisol Is the Drummer
It wasn’t until I learned about cortisol and circadian rhythms that I realized I was totally messing up my own sleep without realizing it.
See, good sleep actually has a rhythm to it.
All night, your brain goes through this cycle involving different stages of light sleep, deep sleep, and REM.
Like a song on repeat.
And that “sleep song” is highly influenced by your Circadian Clock – a 24-hr sleep/wake cycle roughly synchronized with nighttime and daytime.​
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Now, you can think of cortisol as the drummer of this rhythm…
Just like a drummer keeps time for a band, cortisol sets the pace for your Circadian rhythm…telling your body when it’s time to wake up, stay alert, and when to start winding down.
Cortisol is supposed to peak in the morning to help you wake up…
Then slowly drop off as the day goes on.
By nighttime, cortisol should be at it lowest - so that melatonin can rise to help you fall asleep and stay asleep
But if you’re under chronic stress (consistently high cortisol)…
Or eating super late (food is a “wake” circadian signal)…
Or looking at a bright screen (blue light tricks your brain into thinking it’s still daytime)...
Or reading scary news before bed (activates fight-or-flight, which raises cortisol)…
(Some nights I was doing all the above!)
…your sleep rhythm gets all messed up.
Which means your cortisol might stay high. Or even SPIKE at night.
And high nighttime cortisol keeps melatonin from rising like it should…
Causing that “wired but tired” feeling we all dread. Wanting to fall asleep but not being able to.
In fact, researchers have found that people with insomnia often have elevated cortisol levels at night, a likely cause of their sleep issues.
So…What Can You Do?
As you can probably guess…
Keeping your cortisol as low as possible before bed is going to be the best solution.
You need to give your brain very clear signals:
“Hey, it’s nighttime. No funny business. Time to start winding down for sleep…”
Try Following The 6 Circadian “Zeitgebers”:
(Zeitgebers = German for time-keepers)
These are known to have the biggest impact on your cortisol levels at night…
1 - Light
Bright light (particularly blue light) suppresses melatonin and signals the brain to be alert.
👉 What to do: Get bright natural light in the morning (ideally within 30 minutes of waking) and dim lights 1–2 hours before bed. Avoid bright screens, or wear blue light-blocking glasses at night.
2- Food timing
Eating signals your body that it's time to digest and be alert, so eating late can keep cortisol elevated and delay melatonin.
👉 What to do: Try to finish dinner 2–3 hours before bed. Avoid late-night snacks if you can.
3 - Mental/emotional stimulation
Scary news, intense movies, or even conflict with a spouse at night activate your sympathetic nervous system, driving up cortisol.
👉 What to do: Safeguard your mental health after 8pm. For me, that means no news, no scrolling on X, and no reading work emails.
4 - Physical activity
Strenuous activity can increase cortisol and keep it high for several hours.
👉 What to do: Light movement before bed is great (walking, yoga) but try to avoid intense workouts after 6pm.
5 - Consistency
When you constantly shift your bedtime or wake time, your brain doesn’t know when to release melatonin or drop cortisol.
👉 What to do: Aim for a consistent sleep and wake time, even on weekends (within 1 hr).
6 - Body temperature
Your core body temperature should drop at night to initiate sleep.
👉 What to do: Keep your bedroom cool (~65°F), and try a warm bath/shower 1–2 hours before bed to trigger a cooling response.
If this seems overwhelming and is a huge shift from your current routine, just try to tackle one at a time…
For example, if you’re used to scrolling Tik Tok right before bed – try replacing that with reading a book. Do that for a week or two, and then move on to the next improvement, like shifting your dinner up 1 hour.​
 
2WhiteWolves

2WhiteWolves

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Jimi said:
Beauty is so misunderstood. I am so very sorry you feel this way my Dear Friend. I guess it's just me but I see beauty in people on the inside and believe me you and everyone here are beautiful because you all have beautiful hearts. Their beauty is only skin deep but the way I find beauty (in the heart) it goes very deep, too the other side. Look at your heart in the mirror and I am more than sure you will see true beauty my Dear Friend :hug: :hug:
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I'm trying to say is males and females do not take the time to look inside the "ugly" the not so pretty females and males. Doesn't matter which one female or male. It is known fact, the more handsome or prettier the person is it's more than likely lets say get the promotion at work or get treated better. I mean, like, you post on the good time thread, who had a crush on Samantha (I think that is correct) from Bewitched. Now post a pic of a woman that isn't so attractive, well, you and I both know who's going to get the attention. It's human nature that's how life is. No matter how beautiful someone is in the inside, people will not take the time to see to get to know the "ugly" not so pretty.

Okay, I don't believe I'm saying this in public, but here it goes. Oy vah!!!!!!!!
When I was growing up, went to a small school in a small town. Everyday, b4 classes began, during classes and after classes after school, I was made of fun, I was so badly put down on, mom pulled me out of school. No one ever took the time to get to know me, I was the "ugly" girl. I had so many pranks pulled on me it wasn't even funny. I don't know what I ever did to those children (teenagers and younger), well, I didn't do anything except show my face and that was enough for them to treat me this badly, horrible, no child should ever have to go through what I did. So, I do know how people look at the "ugly" . Jimi, you probably wouldn't have and to of had one friend back then, you would have been a blessing to me. I was only like 7 to 9 yrs of age and my heart was broken, I was a broken child. I didn't "blossom" look better/pretty until around 14. And, unfortunately, adults can be just as cruel as those children, teenagers.
 
2WhiteWolves

2WhiteWolves

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Jimi said:
Good Mornin Family :wave:
Cold day here 26 when I got up:(
How's all my wonderful friends doin today?
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Yup, it was 28 here, frost the night before. Already had blossoms on fruit trees. So many bees on the the fruit trees yesterday, just standing underneath them I could hear them, it was nice. Today, there still were some bees but not nearly as many. But, not going to be much if any fruits again this year, but that's what "they" want :( . Been here 17 yrs and only twice has all the fruit trees produced lots of fruit. It's so sad :(
Lol, last year had one apple and it was delicious.
 
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