ARGH!

[AndriaD]

This is a multiple times a day conversation.

Her: why does it seem like I'm the only one that changes the toilet paper roll?
Us: because you change it early and we use the whole roll.

(This is her idea of a used up roll. There's like a third of the roll left.)

She would actually throw that much away???? Wow... she must have been born with a PLATINUM spoon in her mouth!

Andria

 

[VaporCarp]

All in-laws are bat shit crazy. Kick her ass out

 

[Khassy]

She would actually throw that much away???? Wow... she must have been born with a PLATINUM spoon in her mouth!

Andria

I have no idea how she uses as much as she does, either. I'll change the roll and go in after she's been in there and I swear, half the fucking roll is gone already. What the hell is she doing with it?! We had to remove the trash can from the bathroom, too, because she kept throwing her used paper into it. In their house, they had a septic tank and for some reason threw the paper in the garbage instead of flushing it.

 

[Khassy]

Anyone know where I can get one of these?

 

[AndriaD]

I have no idea how she uses as much as she does, either. I'll change the roll and go in after she's been in there and I swear, half the fucking roll is gone already. What the hell is she doing with it?! We had to remove the trash can from the bathroom, too, because she kept throwing her used paper into it. In their house, they had a septic tank and for some reason threw the paper in the garbage instead of flushing it.

Septic tanks can be quirky. At one house we lived in, in MI, the landlord requested that we stop using Northern tissue, because of problems with the septic tank.

One of the MAJOR requirements we had when we bought this house was that it be on city/county water and sewerage. It makes the water bill higher, but SOOOO worth it!

Andria

 

[Whiskey]

All in-laws are bat shit crazy. Kick her ass out

Guess I really AM getting to know you

 

[VaporCarp]

Stalking me again?

 

[Whiskey]

Stalking me again?

No I am visiting threads I have posted in prior, go stroke your own ego mang

 

[VaporCarp]

No I am visiting threads I have posted in prior, go stroke your own ego mang

No need, my bitches keep it stroked.

 

[Whiskey]

No need, my bitches keep it stroked.

Sounds like that can get expensive

 

[AndriaD]

No need, my bitches keep it stroked.

Bitches?? I'd stroke it with a baseball bat.

Andria

 

[VaporCarp]

Bitches?? I'd stroke it with a baseball bat.

Andria

Like you'd have a chance

 

[Whiskey]

Why you trollin threads VaporCrap???

 

[VaporCarp]

Posting in 2 threads is trolling? Why are you trolling me?

 

[Whiskey]

Not trolling at all, responding to crap posts, is what I do best

 

[Khassy]

I swear, I'm about to snap. My last nerve is stretched to the limit. If I have to hear "I'm going to go out to smoke a cigarette, since I can't smoke in the house" (the last part said in a bitchy, sarcastic tone of voice), I'm gonna smack her with a shovel.

 

[AndriaD]

I swear, I'm about to snap. My last nerve is stretched to the limit. If I have to hear "I'm going to go out to smoke a cigarette, since I can't smoke in the house" (the last part said in a bitchy, sarcastic tone of voice), I'm gonna smack her with a shovel.

While she's outside... lock the doors.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

While she's outside... lock the doors.

Andria

Thank God, she was just kidnapped by her friend. God bless that woman, she has seemingly infinite patience to deal with the Dementor. Now, for at least a couple of hours, I can watch what I want and vape to my heart's content.

 

[Khassy]

*sigh* The Halo ecigs came today that we got for her, with 12mg tobacco flavored juice. She's already got it in her head that she won't like them before she even tried. Took a drag, handed it back and said "There's nothing in there. No flavor at all, just air."

 

[AndriaD]

*sigh* The Halo ecigs came today that we got for her, with 12mg tobacco flavored juice. She's already got it in her head that she won't like them before she even tried. Took a drag, handed it back and said "There's nothing in there. No flavor at all, just air."

I wonder... Have you ever tried just having an old-fashioned screaming match with her? Never know, it might get thru. You seem like the kind of person who's so nice that everyone walks all over you, your MIL no exception. Maybe it's time to ditch Ms. Niceguy.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

I wonder... Have you ever tried just having an old-fashioned screaming match with her? Never know, it might get thru. You seem like the kind of person who's so nice that everyone walks all over you, your MIL no exception. Maybe it's time to ditch Ms. Niceguy.

Andria

LOL I'm not that nice. And I'd scream at her but with her total lack of short-term memory, she'd never remember so I'd be screaming at her all day, every day.

 

[AndriaD]

LOL I'm not that nice. And I'd scream at her but with her total lack of short-term memory, she'd never remember so I'd be screaming at her all day, every day.

That's exactly what I'd be doing, all day, everyday, until the spouse got so sick of it, he'd find her someplace else to live, or lock her in a closet, just to shut me up.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

That's exactly what I'd be doing, all day, everyday, until the spouse got so sick of it, he'd find her someplace else to live, or lock her in a closet, just to shut me up.

Andria

I'm done trying to appease her. The very last thing I did was have my son move one of our very uncomfortable all metal chairs by the back door because earlier, she'd complained that there was no place to sit, the step there was too low for her to sit on. So now she can sit uncomfortably outside and smoke to her heart's content, even with the snide-ass comments. Don't give a shit anymore. And *I'll* use the Halo ecigs myself.

 

[AndriaD]

I'm done trying to appease her. The very last thing I did was have my son move one of our very uncomfortable all metal chairs by the back door because earlier, she'd complained that there was no place to sit, the step there was too low for her to sit on. So now she can sit uncomfortably outside and smoke to her heart's content, even with the snide-ass comments. Don't give a shit anymore. And *I'll* use the Halo ecigs myself.

Don't blame you a bit. I just can't imagine how you've put up with it thus far. My own mom was pretty much in her "right mind," but considering HER, that wasn't really saying a lot. Example: when my stepfather had his heart attack, we had to go and stay overnight a couple times with my mom. One night, she and i were having words, and she comes out with "So you don't want to stay here overnight?" I said, "Of course not, but you need us, so here we are." She had a fit, demanding that we leave... even though, in a wheelchair, she REALLY NEEDED someone to stay with her. She was helpless, demanding, immature, determined to eat all the wrong things no matter what anyone said, and if you told her the absolute truth about what a pain in the ass she really was, she'd have stopped speaking to us for a fucking year. That was my mom -- IN HER RIGHT MIND! She apparently thought we were supposed to be delighted not to sleep in our own beds in our own home, but stay there to take care of her whining demanding ass.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Don't blame you a bit. I just can't imagine how you've put up with it thus far. My own mom was pretty much in her "right mind," but considering HER, that wasn't really saying a lot. Example: when my stepfather had his heart attack, we had to go and stay overnight a couple times with my mom. One night, she and i were having words, and she comes out with "So you don't want to stay here overnight?" I said, "Of course not, but you need us, so here we are." She had a fit, demanding that we leave... even though, in a wheelchair, she REALLY NEEDED someone to stay with her. She was helpless, demanding, immature, determined to eat all the wrong things no matter what anyone said, and if you told her the absolute truth about what a pain in the ass she really was, she'd have stopped speaking to us for a fucking year. That was my mom -- IN HER RIGHT MIND! She apparently thought we were supposed to be delighted not to sleep in our own beds in our own home, but stay there to take care of her whining demanding ass.

Andria

I think I got you beat on the psychotic mother front. If this was my mother, there's no way I'd put up with her shit. My mother came to visit us once when my sons were 12 and 4. The little one would follow her around everywhere wanting to play or just a kind word, but she couldn't be bothered with him. My 12 year old, on the other hand, she absolutely adored and fawned over. I told her I wasn't going to put up with her treating my kids the way she treated me and my brother (older and favored) our entire lives, and if she wasn't going to treat them the same, she could go back home. She WALKED 10 miles to the Amtrack station (I didn't have a car and our town doesn't have cabs) and left. She never spoke to me again. Two years later, she did the same to my brother after he adopted 2 girls after he had already adopted 2 boys. See, she was Korean and had no use for girls whatsoever, and said since he already had an heir and a spare, why'd he bother with girls. One ran into the house excited to see her and she shoved the girl onto her ass. My brother threw her out and it wasn't until 5 years later that she finally started talking to him again, after he apologized for offending her.

When cancer ravaged her body a year after that (8 years after she had cut me off) and a friend of mine called me to let me know she was dying, we flew out to Hawaii to see her before she died. She'd already had a debilitating stroke that left her unable to speak or move and her food and fluids had already been cut off, but I could see in her eyes that if she could throw us out, she would have. We got there on a Tuesday afternoon and she passed in the middle of that night.

She'd given her apartment manager instructions that we were not to be allowed into her apartment, so we had to find a lawyer and get a court order allowing us to stay there while we liquidated all her shit and settled her estate, about 2 weeks. She knew she was dying for a year and forbade anyone from telling us. She gave one of her acquaintances all of her money and signed over her car, and gave her all the shit in the apartment. Which was fine, really, as there wasn't anything we wanted anyway. THAT'S how filled with hate she was. She hated my father my entire life for leaving her when I was young - for well over 30 years. And I mean an ACTIVE hate that consumed her. She died without a friend in the world other than the one she basically paid.

I refuse to live like that. Or die like that. I don't need a lot of friends but if I die with one or two, and my family doesn't despise me, I'll count myself ahead of the game. So by comparison, my MIL is a joy to be around.

 

[AndriaD]

I think I got you beat on the psychotic mother front. If this was my mother, there's no way I'd put up with her shit. My mother came to visit us once when my sons were 12 and 4. The little one would follow her around everywhere wanting to play or just a kind word, but she couldn't be bothered with him. My 12 year old, on the other hand, she absolutely adored and fawned over. I told her I wasn't going to put up with her treating my kids the way she treated me and my brother (older and favored) our entire lives, and if she wasn't going to treat them the same, she could go back home. She WALKED 10 miles to the Amtrack station (I didn't have a car and our town doesn't have cabs) and left. She never spoke to me again. Two years later, she did the same to my brother after he adopted 2 girls after he had already adopted 2 boys. See, she was Korean and had no use for girls whatsoever, and said since he already had an heir and a spare, why'd he bother with girls. One ran into the house excited to see her and she shoved the girl onto her ass. My brother threw her out and it wasn't until 5 years later that she finally started talking to him again, after he apologized for offending her.

When cancer ravaged her body a year after that (8 years after she had cut me off) and a friend of mine called me to let me know she was dying, we flew out to Hawaii to see her before she died. She'd already had a debilitating stroke that left her unable to speak or move and her food and fluids had already been cut off, but I could see in her eyes that if she could throw us out, she would have. We got there on a Tuesday afternoon and she passed in the middle of that night.

She'd given her apartment manager instructions that we were not to be allowed into her apartment, so we had to find a lawyer and get a court order allowing us to stay there while we liquidated all her shit and settled her estate, about 2 weeks. She knew she was dying for a year and forbade anyone from telling us. She gave one of her acquaintances all of her money and signed over her car, and gave her all the shit in the apartment. Which was fine, really, as there wasn't anything we wanted anyway. THAT'S how filled with hate she was. She hated my father my entire life for leaving her when I was young - for well over 30 years. And I mean an ACTIVE hate that consumed her. She died without a friend in the world other than the one she basically paid.

I refuse to live like that. Or die like that. I don't need a lot of friends but if I die with one or two, and my family doesn't despise me, I'll count myself ahead of the game. So by comparison, my MIL is a joy to be around.

Geez. All I had to deal with was a control-freak and the control-freak she married when I was 7, after she divorced my alcoholic father. Because she wanted to control me, she really didn't prepare me at all for adulthood -- because only small children can be completely controlled. But then when i was 18, she was all "you're so immature!"

Best thing I did was move to Michigan (800 miles away!) with my boyfriend, who became my 1st husband, when I was 24. Got a divorce, found a better guy, remarried, and had a child... THEN moved back home, a fully functioning adult. She still never accepted that i was anything other than the goofy adolescent I had been.

I must say, I do like my stepfather a great deal better now, than I did when I was 7.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Geez. All I had to deal with was a control-freak and the control-freak she married when I was 7, after she divorced my alcoholic father. Because she wanted to control me, she really didn't prepare me at all for adulthood -- because only small children can be completely controlled. But then when i was 18, she was all "you're so immature!"

Best thing I did was move to Michigan (800 miles away!) with my boyfriend, who became my 1st husband, when I was 24. Got a divorce, found a better guy, remarried, and had a child... THEN moved back home, a fully functioning adult. She still never accepted that i was anything other than the goofy adolescent I had been.

I must say, I do like my stepfather a great deal better now, than I did when I was 7.

Andria

Oh, did I mention that my mother gave us away to a corporation when I was 5? Well, technically it was a children's home (like an orphanage for kids whose parents are still alive), but yeah, signed away custody to them. Course, she had beat my brother black and blue with a vacuum hose before that so actually, it was probably a good thing all things considered. She kinda had anger issues and I'm pretty sure she was an undiagnosed bipolar.

I kinda did the same as you, though. Married the wrong guy, had a kid, got a divorce, found the right guy, married him, had another kid and have been a somewhat functioning adult since then. She seemed to treat me a little better once I settled down, even came to stay for a couple of weeks when my younger son was born, before losing her shit again a few years later.

My father left my mother when I was little because he'd fallen for another woman. They ended up getting married and some 35 years later, my step-monster decided she was really a man, got a sex change, left him and married a woman. It's all very Jerry Springer. Karma's a bitch, though, ain't it?

See, stories like yours and mine are the reason why I have absolutely zero sympathy for those who allegedly became psychopathic serial killers "because they had a rough childhood." Seriously? Get in line, dude. Not many have ideal childhoods and/or parents.

 

[AndriaD]

See, stories like yours and mine are the reason why I have absolutely zero sympathy for those who allegedly became psychopathic serial killers "because they had a rough childhood." Seriously? Get in line, dude. Not many have ideal childhoods and/or parents.

This exactly. And why I cried when I learned I was pregnant, I was so afraid that I'd fuck it all up the way my mom did. I spent my whole pregnancy in the library reading books about having a baby, then raising that infant... Best thing my husband ever did for me at that time was buy me a copy of Dr Spock's Baby and Child Care -- that man was a genius about child-rearing. I was off drugs by the time I got pregnant, and managed to stay sober while pregnant, but he was 4 before I really got sober with the 12 steps... but somehow I managed to raise a kid who knows right from wrong, doesn't lie, cheat, steal, drink, or take drugs, and still likes me... fucking miraculous! Really wish I'd had a 2nd one, but at the time... I dunno how we'd have afforded it.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Tried explaining to the Dementor again what fibromyalgia is and what it's like. Her reply: "You just have to learn to use it to your advantage."

Somehow, I don't think she quite gets it.

 

[AndriaD]

Tried explaining to the Dementor again what fibromyalgia is and what it's like. Her reply: "You just have to learn to use it to your advantage."

Somehow, I don't think she quite gets it.

Gawd.. that's right up there with my mom's "Stop feeling so damn sorry for yourself!" when I was suffering major clinical depression. Talk about not getting something! I finally yelled at her that SHE was a large of the reason for it, all the suppressed rage that was finally starting to come out, which I'd been suppressing for DECADES with drugs, alcohol, and then clinical depression when the drugs and booze were gone! At one point, I screamed so loudly and violently, I gave myself a nosebleed!

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Gawd.. that's right up there with my mom's "Stop feeling so damn sorry for yourself!" when I was suffering major clinical depression. Talk about not getting something! I finally yelled at her that SHE was a large of the reason for it, all the suppressed rage that was finally starting to come out, which I'd been suppressing for DECADES with drugs, alcohol, and then clinical depression when the drugs and booze were gone! At one point, I screamed so loudly and violently, I gave myself a nosebleed!

Andria

Yup, I used to get the whole "shake it off" thing myself. Felt like running over them with a car and then telling them to shake it off. Sometimes feel like asking her if her dead husband was able to use his cancer to his

 

[AndriaD]

Yup, I used to get the whole "shake it off" thing myself. Felt like running over them with a car and then telling them to shake it off. Sometimes feel like asking her if her dead husband was able to use his cancer to his

Yeah. If anyone says "buck up" "get over it", I usually ask them how that's going for their {diabetes, hypertension, etc} -- I mean, if you can shake off a disease like clinical depression, surely you can shake off diabetes, hypertension, asthma... etc, right? Idiots. And my husband, who endured it with me and OUGHT TO KNOW BETTER, said "What in the world would Robin Williams have to be depressed about?" I screamed at him, "IT'S A DISEASE YOU ASSHOLE! NOT A FUCKING MOOD!"


Andria

 

[Khassy]

Yeah. If anyone says "buck up" "get over it", I usually ask them how that's going for their {diabetes, hypertension, etc} -- I mean, if you can shake off a disease like clinical depression, surely you can shake off diabetes, hypertension, asthma... etc, right? Idiots. And my husband, who endured it with me and OUGHT TO KNOW BETTER, said "What in the world would Robin Williams have to be depressed about?" I screamed at him, "IT'S A DISEASE YOU ASSHOLE! NOT A FUCKING MOOD!"


Andria

I remember them saying that about Rodney Dangerfield, too. Pissed me off to no end. I used to get accused of faking fibro all the time when I was working, "just so I could have a day off." Bitch, walk a day in my skin then tell me I'm faking.

 

[AndriaD]

What you said yesterday, about those who claim their abusive childhoods are the reason they're serial killers -- usually it's men; women who're abused generally inflict it on themselves,with ailments like depression, anorexia, bulimia, etc... or on their own children, with Munchausen's by Proxy. Women turn it inward; men turn it outward, because they mostly don't know how to deal with inward. Because society has trained them not to "feel", or if they do feel, not to acknowledge those feelings in any way except maybe rage.

ETA: also, women usually succumb to men who will abuse them in ways that feel familiar, since an abused child learns that "I love you" means "I'm going to hurt you" -- I went thru that myself, first with a batterer, then with an emotional abuser. When I met and fell in love with the guy I've been marrid to for 29 yrs, I was constantly "Are you sure you love me?" Because he never offered me any abuse of any kind -- so it was hard to recognize that he actually did love me.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

What you said yesterday, about those who claim their abusive childhoods are the reason they're serial killers -- usually it's men; women who're abused generally inflict it on themselves,with ailments like depression, anorexia, bulimia, etc... or on their own children, with Munchausen's by Proxy. Women turn it inward; men turn it outward, because they mostly don't know how to deal with inward. Because society has trained them not to "feel", or if they do feel, not to acknowledge those feelings in any way except maybe rage.

ETA: also, women usually succumb to men who will abuse them in ways that feel familiar, since an abused child learns that "I love you" means "I'm going to hurt you" -- I went thru that myself, first with a batterer, then with an emotional abuser. When I met and fell in love with the guy I've been marrid to for 29 yrs, I was constantly "Are you sure you love me?" Because he never offered me any abuse of any kind -- so it was hard to recognize that he actually did love me.

Andria

You sound so much like me that it's scary. I still ask my husband that and after 23 years, I still don't believe it. "Do you..." is always followed by "But why?"

 

[AndriaD]

You sound so much like me that it's scary. I still ask my husband that and after 23 years, I still don't believe it. "Do you..." is always followed by "But why?"

Heh... After I switched from smoking to vaping, I had no more doubt about my husband's love -- he put up with that stink for 27 yrs, with very few comments about it -- and what few there were, were usually only if I was choking him out with smoke in our vehicle. And occasionally, after I'd come indoors after smoking and head straight for him to say something -- because now I know, a smoker who walks into the room makes the ENTIRE ROOM smell like a filthy ashtray. I'm awed that he loved me enough to put up with that shit!

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Heh... After I switched from smoking to vaping, I had no more doubt about my husband's love -- he put up with that stink for 27 yrs, with very few comments about it -- and what few there were, were usually only if I was choking him out with smoke in our vehicle. And occasionally, after I'd come indoors after smoking and head straight for him to say something -- because now I know, a smoker who walks into the room makes the ENTIRE ROOM smell like a filthy ashtray. I'm awed that he loved me enough to put up with that shit!

Andria

It truly must be love then. Dementor just came in from a smoke break. Dog started sniffing her and she says "Do I smell good?" I felt like telling her "NO, YOU FUCKING STINK." I can barely stand the stench across the couch.

 

[AndriaD]

It truly must be love then. Dementor just came in from a smoke break. Dog started sniffing her and she says "Do I smell good?" I felt like telling her "NO, YOU FUCKING STINK." I can barely stand the stench across the couch.

I definitely would have! That's exactly why I told my son he has to quit smoking and switch to vaping, when he moves back in with us. "I love you, and I care about your health... but most of all, I DON'T wanna smell that REEK!" He laughed and said it would only be payback, for all the years of his childhood when I smoked in the car. I said fine, then find someplace else to live. He said, no, no, I want to vape!

Andria

 

[Raymcconn]

I have been watching this thread and my hearts go out to everyone. I know exactly where everyone is coming from. My mil has been with us for the past 8 months. I have just been told she is going to a nursing home. It was time and we just cant take care of her any further. God bless her heart and at 92 with dementia caused by kidney failure we tried as long as we could. It is to the point I cant even talk to her or it sets her off because there is a "man in the house stealing my things". You all have my prayers. I will add it is a day of mixed feelings when you end up having to put someone you care for in a nursing home even if it means peace back in your home. God bless you all.

 

[Khassy]

I definitely would have! That's exactly why I told my son he has to quit smoking and switch to vaping, when he moves back in with us. "I love you, and I care about your health... but most of all, I DON'T wanna smell that REEK!" He laughed and said it would only be payback, for all the years of his childhood when I smoked in the car. I said fine, then find someplace else to live. He said, no, no, I want to vape!

Andria

That's why I prefer days with a bit of a breeze. She tends to not stink as much as days when she just seems to be bathed in stench. Ugh.

I have been watching this thread and my hearts go out to everyone. I know exactly where everyone is coming from. My mil has been with us for the past 8 months. I have just been told she is going to a nursing home. It was time and we just cant take care of her any further. God bless her heart and at 92 with dementia caused by kidney failure we tried as long as we could. It is to the point I cant even talk to her or it sets her off because there is a "man in the house stealing my things". You all have my prayers. I will add it is a day of mixed feelings when you end up having to put someone you care for in a nursing home even if it means peace back in your home. God bless you all.

You have my sympathies. I wouldn't wish the situation on my worst enemy. The random rages are disconcerting and a wee bit scary. Although I have to admit that my biggest fear is that I'm going to wake up one day to discover her lifeless body and then have to deal with things until my husband can get back home. Gives me the heebie jeebies just thinking about it.

Just out of curiousity, how many hearts do you have?

 

[Khassy]

Oh, and funny enough, she just asked me why I seem to be in such pain and said it was a shame for someone to live like this. Go figure.

 

[Raymcconn]

You have my sympathies. I wouldn't wish the situation on my worst enemy. The random rages are disconcerting and a wee bit scary. Although I have to admit that my biggest fear is that I'm going to wake up one day to discover her lifeless body and then have to deal with things until my husband can get back home. Gives me the heebie jeebies just thinking about it.
Just out of curiousity, how many hearts do you have?

I also am raising my two grandkids (toddlers) and I was afraid one of them would find her like that. I had no idea how I was going to handle it.
As far as the heart / hearts go I guess it depends who you ask and when, according to my wife this morning I was heartless.
It has been a stressful day on us all.

 

[Khassy]

I also am raising my two grandkids (toddlers) and I was afraid one of them would find her like that. I had no idea how I was going to handle it.
As far as the heart / hearts go I guess it depends who you ask and when, according to my wife this morning I was heartless.
It has been a stressful day on us all.

 

[Raymcconn]

Well it is going to get worse before better. I found out last night when I got home that we have to find a nursing home for her. Then since we treat our elderly so well in this country and since she is on Medicare my state will come in and take everything she has, including life insurance. WTH. My wife's family will have to sign saying she has not hid any money or property in the last five years of the application. Anyway, hope everyone has a good day. They want me to work while I am here today for some reason.

 

[Khassy]

Well it is going to get worse before better. I found out last night when I got home that we have to find a nursing home for her. Then since we treat our elderly so well in this country and since she is on Medicare my state will come in and take everything she has, including life insurance. WTH. My wife's family will have to sign saying she has not hid any money or property in the last five years of the application. Anyway, hope everyone has a good day. They want me to work while I am here today for some reason.

We figure the same thing, but there's nothing for them to take from her. She had to file for bankruptcy after my FIL died because there were two mortgages on their house and it was underwater, and he'd taken out several credit cards in her name and maxed them out. The bank took the house and everything in it. All she has is what's in her bedroom (her mostly costume jewelry, clothes and knickknacks) and her monthly social security pay. She's manage to save quite a bit in the bank from the payments because we don't charge her for rent or groceries or anything, even though we legally could.

That's one of the things that irritates us so much. She just doesn't understand how well she has it here. None of the other sibs are situated in a way where they could care for her full time, so it's us or a facility. She goes into one, they take even her social security and gives her like $100/mo for spending money. She's currently going through about $60/week on cigarettes and going out with her friend to McD's.

Woke up this morning to a large puddle of Dr. Pepper in the middle of the kitchen floor. It's pretty much all she drinks so we get her 2 liter bottles and she uses an insulated travel thermos that has a built-in straw. How on earth can anyone spill that much on the floor and just walk over and around it for 2 hours? I swear she does these things on purpose. This morning when I went to get her purse for her as she was going out with her friend, I found it hidden under her pillow with the strap actually wrapped around her pillow. Like she figured if we were going to steal it, we'd have to steal her pillow, too.

 

[Raymcconn]

Yea, everything is under the pillow. Last night she was saying someone was stealing her clothes. Tell me who wants a 92 year old women's clothes.

 

[AndriaD]

Yea, everything is under the pillow. Last night she was saying someone was stealing her clothes. Tell me who wants a 92 year old women's clothes.

Those 92 yr old burglars who creep in every night and steal her shit.

Andria

 

[Khassy]

Yea, everything is under the pillow. Last night she was saying someone was stealing her clothes. Tell me who wants a 92 year old women's clothes.

For a while last year, my younger son's girlfriend lived with us because they got thrown out of their apartment. (I despised her, btw.) My MIL was absolutely convinced that she had seen my son creak her door open while she was in bed at night, reach his hand in and steal her granny panties to give to his girlfriend. There was no talking her out of it. Oh, did I mention that the panties in question were in the laundry basket at the foot of her bed? The DIRTY laundry basket. With the granny panties that she'd had pee accidents in.

 

[Raymcconn]

OMG - It sounds just like what we go through. The sad part is there is no way of talking them out of it. Then my MIL starts to get mean. I think that is what's the hardest on my wife. She just gets nasty, I wouldn't ever dream of talking like that.

 

[AndriaD]

OMG - It sounds just like what we go through. The sad part is there is no way of talking them out of it. Then my MIL starts to get mean. I think that is what's the hardest on my wife. She just gets nasty, I wouldn't ever dream of talking like that.

Hell, my mom didn't need dementia to get mean and nasty; I think it was her natural state; smiling and polite was her mask.

Andria