Do As I Do...anyone else have a spouse/partner like this?

[Vaporilla]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

 

[wildgypsy70]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

Hi! I don’t have this problem.....my SO never smoked. This is my journey. And this is YOUR journey. Do it the way that works for you. If thats sub tanks and factory coils, then so be it. It keeps you off the smokes, ya? Then do it the way you want. I personally DIY my own ejuice, but don’t build coils yet. I may never! It doesn’t matter! What I’m doing works for ME. Yes, factory coils cost more and I am very aware of that....he is correct about that. BUT the most important thing is what works for you and to keep you off cigs! It sounds Like he needs to back off a hair and let you just do you. Welcome to VU.

 

[Huckleberried]

No, I understand. A friend of mine is perfectly happy with their protank and istick. He tried out wrapping his own coil, did quite well with it, even, he's just completely happy with his vape the way it is. Nothing wrong with it at all.

I've seen seasoned builders go back to subohm tanks because of how much they've progressed over the years. People just like simplicity and go back to the basics. Tell him he can do his own thing all he wants. You do you, no one else can.

 

[JuicyLucy]

I've seen seasoned builders go back to subohm tanks because of how much they've progressed over the years. People just like simplicity and go back to the basics. Tell him he can do his own thing all he wants. You do you, no one else can.

Yeah, I've seen several seasoned vapers around here are now using the Juul and/or AIO devises and dumped their RDAs and mods

This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

Tell Count Vapula he is sucking the juice out of your enjoyment - it is not a rut unless you keep doing the same thing but are unsatisfied - and that pre-made coils are still cheaper and healthier than cigarettes - I'm sure there are things he likes to do that are more expensive than how you do it

Can't blame you for venting at all

My Mr. still smokes two packs a day ($98 a carton - you do the math!), has COPD, suffered three TIAs plus a major stroke - in addition to the costs associated with a bazillion pills for his blood pressure, is on an inhaler and constantly uses the excuse of feeling weak or unwell because his BP is too high to shirk his responsibilities - can't vape because ---- it makes him cough

 

[David Wolf]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

Did you just force us to listening to wife complaints? Haha
I can understand your frustration though, we like what we like

 

[scalewiz]

Sounds like you married a 'quick learner'. You are very lucky to have such an intelligent man.

 

[JuicyLucy]

Did you just force us to listening to wife complaints? Haha

Force, roflmao

Mansplain that one

 

[David Wolf]

Force, roflmao

Mansplain that one

Haha simple we men unsuspectingly walked into a complaint about a husband which should by all rights go to the husband who at least derives other *ahem* marital benefits

 

[JuicyLucy]

Haha simple we men unsuspectingly walked into a complaint about a husband which should by all rights go to the husband who at least derives other *ahem* marital benefits

Classic mansplain!

I'm sure the OP carefully explained her position to said husband who blissfully tuned it all out and continues down the path of man hubris: husband's superior wisdom in all matters

 

[UncleRJ]

For whatever reason, this got me thinking a What If scenario..

For example, Cliff, (the bar "know It All) from the series "Cheers" got into vaping and went to a vape meet?

 

[JuicyLucy]

For whatever reason, this got me thinking a What If scenario..

For example, Cliff, (the bar "know It All) from the series "Cheers" got into vaping and went to a vape meet?

Hahaha

https://youtu.be/wNuMDDh00ng?t=85

 

[AndriaD]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

You should tell him, you're not interested in coil-building, you prefer the convenience of bought coils, no matter what they cost -- because just as you say, vaping is a very personal endeavor; I'm a tight-fisted tightwad who always wants to tinker, so coil-building and DIY ejuice was a natural for me, but I can understand that not everyone feels that way -- I've never met a recipe I didn't tinker with, but some will always cook it the same way, straight from the book, because it's easier and more convenient to do it that way. Plus, at 6 months, youi're still semi-newbie, so just because you feel that way NOW, doesn't mean you always will -- one day you might take a wild hair and decide you wanna play around with this or that build, just for the hell of it.

If vaping keeps you happily not smoking, then you're doing it right, no matter how you do it -- I want a mouse-arsehole tight-draw and less than 10w, even if I do build my own coils and use an RDA, but hey, it's kept me smoke-free for 3 and a half years that way, and that's all that really matters.

Andria

 

[Just Frank]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

I think he should give you your space. You can decide whats best for you, and not be dictated to. You should be able to pick out anything you want without being vetoed.

 

[St.Roostifer]

Vaporilla, that's so wrong on so many levels. Your husband has one hell of an ego and needs to get over himself. The market is flooded with a variety of means to vape with for a reason. Everyone is different and there's something for everyone with no right or wrong method. Keep vaping your way Vaporilla, you're not wrong.

FWIW. I am a man that vapes nothing but rebuildables because I enjoy rebuilding my attys. Just my preference. If my wife tried to be a vape Nazi telling me all the nonsense Vaporilla described with her husband, I can honestly say I would tell my wife to go fuck herself. Luckily for me I know I would never have to do that because my wife and I respect each others freedom of choice in life. I consider myself to be a lucky dude.

 

[David Wolf]

Classic mansplain!

I'm sure the OP carefully explained her position to said husband who blissfully tuned it all out and continues down the path of man hubris: husband's superior wisdom in all matters

Of course. I mean we are logical creatures who are quite rational And have a hard time understanding things like preference and feelings over logic haha

 

[St.Roostifer]

For whatever reason, this got me thinking a What If scenario..

For example, Cliff, (the bar "know It All) from the series "Cheers" got into vaping and went to a vape meet?

Perfect analogy!

What a great TV show that was. Loved watching Cheers.

 

[Time]

So anyone else have a SO who has suddenly become the Ultimate Authority on all things vaping? I quit smoking 6 months ago and became an avid vaper, gradually acquiring bigger and better mod set-ups as I learned the ropes and figured out what I liked and what I didn’t. My hubby started vaping around the same time I did, simply because he was fascinated by the technology and culture associated with it. At first I was thrilled that we had a new hobby to explore together, but now he has become Vapenstein, Vape-pedia, and a self-proclaimed Vapologist all rolled into one. While I admire his enthusiasm and generally respect his opinions, it hasn’t dawned on him that vaping can be a very personal and subjective experience. He believes I am stuck in a “beginners’ rut” because I prefer sub-ohm tanks and pre-made stock coils over RTAs/RDAs and building my own coils. I acquired and tried the OBS Nano RTA numerous times with numerous builds, and taken many hits from his assorted RTA/RDAs with different coils on different mods, and frankly I just don’t get the same experience that he seems to. I like a nice flavorful, concentrated, “juicy” vape hit and just haven’t gotten that from any RTA/RDA like I do from my sub-ohms. We have argued endlessly about the cost factor of stock coils vs. home-builds. My opinion is, if I’m going to stay off cigarettes and stick to vaping, it should enjoyable to ME. His opinion is, building your own coils is way cheaper, more versatile, and is the mark of a true, educated vaper. Whatever!!!!! This really is a stupid and petty issue in the grand scheme of things, and there really is no easy solution, but it’s driving me crazy and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading this.

No, my wife doesn't vape.

But, if you want someone other than your husband to tell you what the "right" way is, just start a thread here on the forum asking something about factory coils. A bunch of Vapologists will chime in to tell you that you must build your own.

Don't hold it against him, he'd fit right in here.

 

[jwill]

I am guilty of something sort of similar with my wife (and for a different reason), maybe there is a correlation in the scenarios.

She loves her little 50w Kanger mod and Subtank or Clieto depending on what she's vaping. I know she does not care about building coils or dealing with any of the mechanics of it (not even a conversation we have ever had). She is fine with the same two juices for the rest of her life. Very uncomplicated vape wise.

I like to explore vaping, mods, juices, etc... When I find something awesome or "life changing" will try to get her to use it and she generally declines or will use it until I stop looking and go back to her trusty. No harm, no foul.

I know her setup works for her but I know there are better things out there and want her to have them. Her cell phone is hanging on by a thread and there is a brand new one on the coffee table just waiting for her sim card. She is content with the things she has, even if they have a death rattle.

I cant speak for your man but I am a fixer personality. I like to fix things. If nothing is broken I am in upgrade mode, lets make it better. If I am being sweet she thinks I am up to no good so instead of pretending to be sweet I try to get/make everything in her life the very best instead. For now I just change her coils when she asks, fill up the tank when she cant get it off, fix the micro USB port when she breaks it and put o-rings on when its time. She knows when she is ready to upgrade I am right here for her.

Maybe your dude is trying to get you the best experience possible from his perspective and going over the top with his Dr. of Vapology to the point of being annoying. It could also just be the newness of it and he feels proud to have acquired some knowledge on the subject and is acting like a greenhorn.

 

[Lady Sarah]

My husband still smoked when we met. I got him to switch to vaping. His ideas are strange enough. He can go buy a $100 mod, and thinks I'd be happy with a $10 mod with only low, medium, and high settings. He capes pins colada juice, and wants me to puff on his juice. To be blunt, it seems he does not care what I like, as long as he can claim bragging rights. Everything he has, just has to be better than what I have.
I thought I drew the line when he wanted me to toss all my clothes except for 7 shirts, and 7 pairs of pants, to make room for all his tools in the bedroom. SMFH!

 

[JuicyLucy]

Everything he has, just has to be better than what I have.

That's not very nice - marriage is a partnership, not a competition - and when one person wins, the other loses

I cant speak for your man but I am a fixer personality. I like to fix things. If nothing is broken I am in upgrade mode, lets make it better.

Hahaha - that's my husband - while he barely gives vaping lip service, at least he doesn't give me crap about my expensive tastes in vaping, lol

 

[St.Roostifer]

Holy hell there are some seriously narcissistic vape Nazi's out there.

This thread is like reading a vape related short story horror novel. Whatever happened to respecting others' freedom of choice?

 

[St.Roostifer]

That's not very nice - marriage is a partnership, not a competition - and when one person wins, the other loses

Cheers to that!

 

[Letitia9]

For whatever reason, this got me thinking a What If scenario..

For example, Cliff, (the bar "know It All) from the series "Cheers" got into vaping and went to a vape meet?

Brilliant!

@Vaporilla Tell him to go suck a vape!

 

[JuicyLucy]

Brilliant!

@Vaporilla Tell him to go suck a vape!

 

[Lady Sarah]

I told my husband I was going to find a nipple he can use for his vaping tip. Sure, he said "why, I got yours", to which I responded " hell, I never said I was gonna get you a boob". He just shook his head.

He is finally getting out of his tickling phase, since I started targeting him for a dose of his own medicine. Over two and a half years of marriage, and I still have to train him. uggggg!

 

[5150sick]

If you are the one paying for coils instead of cigarettes then you need to just tell him to chill out.

Tell him your perfect vape comes from the subohm tank of your choice and that you are just going to have to spring for a $20 pack of coils every month.

People forget that not so long ago they were spending $60 to $100 a week on cigarettes.

 

[kevin littell]

Ill solve this for you in 6 words...Just pick a perfect time for the delivery.


"Not interested, leave my shit alone."


This is a non-gender specific cure for all material conflicts in ANY relationship.


Your Welcome!

 

[nadalama]

Ill solve this for you in 6 words...Just pick a perfect time for the delivery.


"Not interested, leave my shit alone."


This is a non-gender specific cure for all material conflicts in ANY relationship.


Your Welcome!

Like that a lot. Perfect No explanation necessary.

 

[Canadian Vaper]

I use both, I use my Mad Dog RDA at home and when I'm out of the house I use my Swag Kit with the Baby Beast Q2 coils in the NRG tank because it's just more convenient, one thing is for sure in the vaping world a hell of a lot of people think their way of vaping is the only or best way there is, I have no clue why people would think this but it's just how it is and we kind of just have to accept it and move on.

If you're more or less only using one tank and one mod and if he's upgraded a couple times since you got yours you may want to point that out to him ^_^

Mind if I ask what tank you have?