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The good thing for the day is similar to what @SirKadly posted...The weather being bipolar...
Supposed to hit in 60s today this is the good.
Cold front moves through...
Tomorrow upper 30s or low 40s.
Yesterday 78° so there is a little bump day between the 78 and the 30s or 40s. Still, though, it will be shockingly colder with windchills in the single digits to teens :eek:
Pretty much all of February has been warm except a couple days of cooler weather.
 
SirKadly

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I just got home from the Farmer's Market. We have an indoor one, that includes a small diner style restaurant (U shaped counters with bar stools for seating) and I went just to sit there and eat a bite, drink some coffee, do something just to do something in other words. Normally when I go there it is because I plan on buying something specific, today I went just to go.

I know it might seem small or even silly to some people, but I have always been rather asocial, and the last few years that has turned into anti-social and reclusive, so going anywhere without a purpose is a big deal for me. I didn't really quite take the next step of just chatting with someone, unless you count the woman with the rather pleasant personality that was trying to sell me some thai chili & lime flavored kettle corn. We did talk for a couple minutes, the sort of "How's your day going" type of small talk. So I guess that was kind of a big step for me also. And I did buy some. :facepalm:Not really enough in the bag to be worth the price, but I enjoyed the sample so I guess I figured I owed her a purchase after using her as my "random small talk with a stranger" guinea pig.:giggle:

Anyway, I think that's my good thing for the day.
 
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SirKadly said:
I just got home from the Farmer's Market. We have an indoor one, that includes a small diner style restaurant (U shaped counters with bar stools for seating) and I went just to sit there and eat a bite, drink some coffee, do something just to do something in other words. Normally when I go there it is because I plan on buying something specific, today I went just to go.

I know it might seem small or even silly to some people, but I have always been rather asocial, and the last few years that has turned into anti-social and reclusive, so going anywhere without a purpose is a big deal for me. I didn't really quite take the next step of just chatting with someone, unless you count the woman with the rather pleasant personality that was trying to sell me some thai chili & lime flavored kettle corn. We did talk for a couple minutes, the sort of "How's your day going" type of small talk. So I guess that was kind of a big step for me also. And I did buy some. :facepalm:Not really enough in the bag to be worth the price, but I enjoyed the sample so I guess I figured I owed her a purchase after using her as my "random small talk with a stranger" guinea pig.:giggle:

Anyway, I think that's my good thing for the day.
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If I wasn't active in my church and now the Master Gardeners I could be called anti social as well. If I don't have a reason to go out I don't...
 
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gopher_byrd said:
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I will say this on the subject:

Being asocial is primarily about being something of a loner, not needing the social interactions that many people seek out. Not necessarily a bad thing, but often misunderstood.

Antisocial is a frequently misused word, including by me just a moment ago. Most of the time when the typical person uses the term antisocial they really are referring to someone who is asocial. Being antisocial in the sense I just used the word though, while still not technically correct, was intended to mean that instead of simply not desiring to be around people I have begun to actively avoid it at all costs. This is far less healthy simply because it's no longer about being more comfortable living as a loner and introvert, it's about I guess protecting myself from rejection and abandonment and pain. It's about avoiding any remote possibility of connecting. In the end though even the most asocial person in the world needs connection in some fashion.

I have begun to allow myself to find that connection here, and even begun to experience a degree of healing in just a few short months, when isolating myself for the past few years hasn't helped. But at the same time, I am beginning to realize that taking my asocial behavior to this extreme has resulted in a profound sense of loneliness. Some friends I've lost because they drifted away, but others because I pushed them away, not wanting to face the pain if they too eventually moved on from my life.

In short this is who I have become, and I no longer want to be this person:

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