Well, if you don't say anything, that's why they weren't helpful. I stopped going because most of the folks at local meetings seem to have just substituted going to AA every fucking day for drinking every fucking day, and while that's an excellent thing to do in your first 90 days, or even your first year, it's really not how the program is intended to work -- the program is a tool, to enable you to get a life, and now that I've gotten a life, I don't need to waste an hour of it daily at an AA meeting -- but after my mom died, you can bet your ass I was at a meeting, because I needed the reminder that drinking won't fix bad feelings; you just have to live them and get thru them and heal from them.
The program also shows you how helping others can help you, and for that, I am always ready -- that's why I never hide the fact that I am a long-term recovering alcoholic, because someone with 10 days or 6 months who's going thru some bad times might need to know that going thru bad times without alcohol is actually possible, even for 10-15-20-25 years -- they also need to know that no one is ever "cured" from alcoholism; if you were ever once an alcoholic, you still are, and drinking again is just going to prove that to you all over again -- though some do need to have that proof in a painful way, to really get the message -- I did!
That's also why, despite not knowing much about the newer hardware, I'm always ready to help those new to quitting smoking via vaping -- it worked for me, and I can pass along strategies that worked well for me -- the hardware doesn't matter nearly as much as the commitment to quitting and sticking out whatever difficulties may arise.
Andria