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Being poor or "rich" is a choice.I have a rather large all encompassing "new" pet peeve, which I do not claim as pet for then I need to feed it. Any given, I very much have strong disdain, near loathing that society at large was designed to be laden with inequality, the only way you ever achieve anything is being one of the 'haves' "class" to start out. Simply put I hate the axiom, rich get richer, poor get poorer. I know it is the 'truth' of our world and has seemingly always been. I am tired of every day being "more of the same", tired of Orwell's boot stomping a human face and sick and tired of being sick and tired.
*deep relieved and contemplative sigh* Whew!. Writing that out helped a bit but no where near enough, thanks the same though.
We choose what way we want to live and how we live it.
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That's similar to the VERY few times I ever had to slap my son right in the face -- which was ONLY when he SCREAMED into mine -- but it wasn't a hard blow, the kind that hurt and leave a palmprint (I wore my mom's palmprint somewhere on my person for most of my young life), it was more of a HEY, WAKE UP tap, letting him know that screaming into a parent's face was completely intolerable. I think it was only necessary twice -- it definitely got his attention!
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I slapped my older son so hard once that his glasses flew across the room. I was scolding him for something and he yelled "If you'd just shut up and listen!" I said "What did you say to me?" He said "I said if you'd just shut up and listen." POW. He never spoke to me like that again. Not ever.
Well, I agree we each may choose how we perceive our worlds. That does not account for
how others choose perceiving their worlds & the two colliding from time to time as entropy
and life are keen to cause happening. Here's a little example, below.
Note, they need to wait for hours. I too have done this and for a doctor visit which took only two minutes to complete once the doctor actually appeared. It makes having someone drive about 90 miles round trip a bit frustrating. Why do you need to wait? Is the doctor "that" busy? No. They are a "specialist" doctor with limited patients. You wait simply because the doctor chooses to make you wait, for whatever their worlds reason. Oh, and the doctor makes more money than I could see in three lifetimes for one hour's visit charge, and they were only in to see me two minutes.
Yes, we can choose our perceptions and how we "see" life. I grant you that. I also grant that for me life is, or rather was not, about money wholly. There still is far more to life than money for me. Yet, as times creep on it seems the import of the silly money stuff only increases in its weight. I see that for a great multitude of people and know I'm not alone in seeing inequality. It's alright though. I'm learning means to help everyone in our battle to create equality. There are the smallest gestures which in themselves seem trivial, but even a gentle
and often can spread more positive energy than one imagines.
My mother only genuinely hit me once. It was under similar circumstances. I foolishly and indeed disrespectfully called her the b word to her face. Learned how to deck anyone from that experience. Got one hell of a hay making right hook landed on me, and got knocked out on the deck. *chuckles* My mama, she a teach me to drink & kick ass worse than any sailor, she got brass ones I tell you. I now, even to this day do not dare even think of her and the b word together, much less try vocalizing any such thing as such.
On the other hand I punch my mom once. There was a cat getting into our garbage by the back of the house. We were all upstairs in bed. I heard the noise, kind of deduced what it was, rolled over and tried going back to sleep. Mom comes over, touches my left shoulder. I come around and my right fist caught her on both sides of her face, until I realized it was her. It was simply pure reflex on my part, though i still felt terrible for doing it. She felt terrible for having startled me awake and said she ought to have known better having lived with military folk so long.
Then, I once slapped her because oddly for her she had a full on panic attack and was hyperventilating. One of her friends had an accident and had phoned. Mom was kind of beside herself and climbing the walls. Otherwise, i kind of feel that it is highly wrong for a man to hit a woman. I'll excuse it though if the woman perchance is actually going toe to toe at a guy, at that point well, you kind of need to do what you need to do.
I fully comprehend the difference in discipline and abuse. One is meant as means to hopefully better ends, the other might simply wind up the ends with ill means. My mom gave us discipline. My step dad doled out abuse.
I'm letting a lot go in life. Yes, I convert negative energy to positive. Yes, I'm aware that can be difficult and possibly incur risk/s. That is why I am now learning and letting a lot go. The weights of negatives can drown a person in the bottles used to contain them, internally. I apologize hon, if it seems I'm dipping into psychologist mode and offering up something of a reflective anecdote. Got told I ought to venture into doing it once, yet I likely ought not do so just in living and talking civilly with friends. I just ... *sigh* seem to bring everything to the table and let the cards read as they do. it's just me, being me. *smh* Depth is nice, I think.
Think I'll go look at the funny papers (news/media sites) and see what jokes were told today. Always fun out here in the rain.
Good he learned.
I've always heard, "was a mama what brought you in, be a mama taking you out."
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Growing up, I never liked my stepfather at all... However, there were more than a few times I was really glad he was there, because my mom could be very abusive, especially when she was drunk... which was pretty much every night, when I was in my teens... But my stepfather was always calm and collected, fairly strict, but never a screamer or hitter. And as I said, my mom was a slapper, any part of me she could reach, she'd slap in anger. I tried as hard as I possibly could to NEVER strike my son in anger, because when you do that, that's abuse, and I knew that when I was a CHILD. I can't say I was always perfect, but anytime I struck out at him when I was mad, I felt so horrible afterwards, it TRIPLED my resolve to never let it happen again, and after he was about 12, it never did. I did scream at him a lot though, when he had tried my patience past the point of sanity.
But it's true that there was always a lot more laughter in our home than screaming, and to this day, I still consider my son one of the funniest people I've ever been blessed to know.Andria
Well, I agree we each may choose how we perceive our worlds. That does not account for
how others choose perceiving their worlds & the two colliding from time to time as entropy
and life are keen to cause happening. Here's a little example, below.
Note, they need to wait for hours. I too have done this and for a doctor visit which took only two minutes to complete once the doctor actually appeared. It makes having someone drive about 90 miles round trip a bit frustrating. Why do you need to wait? Is the doctor "that" busy? No. They are a "specialist" doctor with limited patients. You wait simply because the doctor chooses to make you wait, for whatever their worlds reason. Oh, and the doctor makes more money than I could see in three lifetimes for one hour's visit charge, and they were only in to see me two minutes.
Yes, we can choose our perceptions and how we "see" life. I grant you that. I also grant that for me life is, or rather was not, about money wholly. There still is far more to life than money for me. Yet, as times creep on it seems the import of the silly money stuff only increases in its weight. I see that for a great multitude of people and know I'm not alone in seeing inequality. It's alright though. I'm learning means to help everyone in our battle to create equality. There are the smallest gestures which in themselves seem trivial, but even a gentle
No, here I am.
Meet my wife...
Instead of complaining about how much money someone has, or the lack of it, I just go out and make money. If I feel I don't have enough, I apply myself and make more.
My money problems are solved, amazingly. That's the great thing about this country. If you actually WANT to make money, you can. If you want to sit around and complain how much other people have, you can do that too, and be broke.
Life is what you make it.
joking Be careful the Federal Reserve does not catch you doing that. /joking
I do not exactly disagree, or agree with you. I am a realist & can comprehend there are at times forces beyond our control. That noted, yes I agree if one goes out and applies themselves they can earn a wage and have all the money they desire. My point was not to sit around and complain as you put it, rather it was expressing frustration toward what lies beyond one's control. Gee, seems we're in a thread aptly titled for people to express such frustrations. So I did not feel or think it out of place or negative in doing so myself.
Well, excuse me. Need to go get busy. Want to finish wrangling up the fencing, set aside study time and get the basics done. None of that is done for money. There are also other measures of wealth in life and I find myself far richer than most, and grateful for that. Run 'er slow.
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Sometimes making more can be a problem, but managing better what you have is another good technique. When we went from "whatever falls out of my husband's pocket, hey where'd all the money go?" to my handling all money and bills down to the very last red cent, things improved DRAMATICALLY. You never realize how much gets frittered away with this 99 cents or that 3.99, till you start taking account of ALL OF IT, ALL THE TIME. We've even managed to start adding to a savings acct -- which is still very modest at this point, but a lot better than NONE.
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I must have misunderstood the intent of you post before. I agree with you.joking Be careful the Federal Reserve does not catch you doing that. /joking
I do not exactly disagree, or agree with you. I am a realist & can comprehend there are at times forces beyond our control. That noted, yes I agree if one goes out and applies themselves they can earn a wage and have all the money they desire. My point was not to sit around and complain as you put it, rather it was expressing frustration toward what lies beyond one's control. Gee, seems we're in a thread aptly titled for people to express such frustrations. So I did not feel or think it out of place or negative in doing so myself.
Well, excuse me. Need to go get busy. Want to finish wrangling up the fencing, set aside study time and get the basics done. None of that is done for money. There are also other measures of wealth in life and I find myself far richer than most, and grateful for that. Run 'er slow.
True. A lot of the money problems today, is that people live to the last cent of their paycheck, on credit/borrowed money. There was a time I lived that way too, but I got my head out of my ass.
For me, I desire more, because I grew up with nothing, literally. I am happy with the money that comes in now, and have really nothing to complain about.
So many people now though, are eaten up with jealousy with other people that have money. That's bothersome.
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We're finally breaking away from living to the last cent and having to spend expensive money (credit cards!) on everyday stuff, and paying those damn money-stealers down. As I constantly remind my husband, he's already paid for the money in the checking acct, with the sweat of his brow, so it's better to use that money than the kind that you have to pay for! I think this is a step that everyone makes in adulthood, realizing that far from being "free money," a credit card is hideously expensive money! It just took us a little longer to grasp than it probably takes other people.
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Ah. No, that was not where I was steering. Not jealous of those who do have, exactly.
I think if we had a bit more for ourselves, it could make our situation in life a bit better. Yes it seems money helps
in that when used wisely. Yes, I think we might enjoy such little comfort.
We do not though feel jealous. For one thing money also incurs a penalty, as i said it requires used with wisdom and that also infers accountability and responsibility. That is extra overhead and worry, more drama in life. We do not desire that. *chuckles*
Me and my wife have an expression. "Don't have money, no point worrying about it. Got money? No point worrying about it either. In each case money comes and goes as fast as it does,. No point concerning yourself over such a transient concept."
I cannot recall the last time I handled actual cash money. Even then it was to pass it off to my wife as quickly as I could. "Here have the adult tickets, ha ha, you have to be the adult!"Boy did she cuss me. *chuckles*
I have a rather large all encompassing "new" pet peeve, which I do not claim as pet for then I need to feed it. Any given, I very much have strong disdain, near loathing that society at large was designed to be laden with inequality, the only way you ever achieve anything is being one of the 'haves' "class" to start out. Simply put I hate the axiom, rich get richer, poor get poorer. I know it is the 'truth' of our world and has seemingly always been. I am tired of every day being "more of the same", tired of Orwell's boot stomping a human face and sick and tired of being sick and tired.
*deep relieved and contemplative sigh* Whew!. Writing that out helped a bit but no where near enough, thanks the same though.
Sharing is caring. Spittin' it out and overcoming our grudges and dislikes.
People who say "nucular"....it's "NUCLEAR'.....falls right in line with the dumbass radio news announcer from my hometown who says "westeren" and southeren"...those are TWO-SYLLABLE words, ya moron.
I'll stop. Bad grammar and spelling in general set me off.....
I was watching a video (Grimmgreen) and Nick would pronounce NiChrome like the wire we use to build with as "Nia Chrome". Usually grammar doesn't really bother me but if someone says something that sounds wrong, a lot, at once.. it's bothersome, lol.
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It's really bad when it's fucking professional newscasters -- last night, some chick on the 11pm news says "Pre-PARE-atory" rather than "PREP-aratory" -- I screamed in sheer outrage. I also EXTREMELY annoyed with the financial planning commercials that say "an-NU-ity" rather than "AN-nuity" -- ditto those who say "inex-PLIC-able" rather than "in-EX-plicable", and "pre-FER-able" rather than the correct "PREF-erable". All that mispronunciation provokes a great deal of screaming at the TV and radio.
Those who broadcast FOR A LIVING should FUCKING KNOW BETTER!!!!!Andria
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Agreed....I'm definitely in the wrong line of work.It's really bad when it's fucking professional newscasters -- last night, some chick on the 11pm news says "Pre-PARE-atory" rather than "PREP-aratory" -- I screamed in sheer outrage. I also EXTREMELY annoyed with the financial planning commercials that say "an-NU-ity" rather than "AN-nuity" -- ditto those who say "inex-PLIC-able" rather than "in-EX-plicable", and "pre-FER-able" rather than the correct "PREF-erable". All that mispronunciation provokes a great deal of screaming at the TV and radio.
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And with reference to the above sentence - when idiots either don't check what autocorrect gives them, or they intentionally spell "definitely" as "defiantly," I lose it.
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Agreed....I'm definitely in the wrong line of work.
And with reference to the above sentence - when idiots either don't check what autocorrect gives them, or they intentionally spell "definitely" as "defiantly," I lose it.
Ayup. Right with ya.
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still going with nauseous when nauseated is meant...but yes....when an AUTHOR uses the wrong one, it does make it worse some how. You are supposed to be wordsmiths for crying out loud. Or, when two of my favorite shows did it (Scorpion and Big Bang Theory).....on both, the people are supposed to be geniuses........
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Oh my....every time I'm looking through Facebook posts I'm also looking for the "translate" button....lol!
Or, from where my parents lived, growing up, it's bee-itch - beeitch.Practice makes perfect.
Was reminded of another pet peeve today.....when people feel the need to bring politics in to every damned thing.
Regardless of what side of the isle they are on, it seems the ones who do this tend to be those who posses the political acumen of a grade schooler.
Regardless of what side of the isle they are on, it seems the ones who do this tend to be those who posses the political acumen of a grade schooler.
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I'm currently experiencing one of my pet peeves. My husband insists on bidding on coins on ebay... then, when he's unable to get paypal to work correctly to pay for it, he comes to get me. I point out that his shipping address is all in lower-case on ebay, which it is NOT, on paypal, because I fixed all his addresses in paypal to have CORRECT case. He refuses to believe me, and calls ebay or paypal or some damn body to bother them with it.
So I guess what I hate is those who have zero computer sense, who bother me with their computer problems, then refuse to believe whatever correct answer I give them.
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So I guess what I hate is those who have zero computer sense, who bother me with their computer problems, then refuse to believe whatever correct answer I give them.
Andria
Ah, tales of the Right-sided mesh build. Yeah.
Nail, meet hammer
Yeah but... for which one?
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thats when you have to have your mod wit you to sneak a few good rips in stealth haha thats what i do since i gotta do those time wasting doc visits every 3 months i even tell them too if you dont hurry i am gona start vaping in this here waiting room
People that say OMG
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LOL! My husband is generous, kind, and fun to be around, most of the time... but he looks like a Hell's Angel's worst nightmare -- so I call him my sheep in wolf's clothing.
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Mine cleans up nice in a suit without his couple tattoos showing and wearing glasses. Also kind and generous, he looks pretty harmless, but is mean as hell if someone rubs him the wrong way.LOL! My husband is generous, kind, and fun to be around, most of the time... but he looks like a Hell's Angel's worst nightmare -- so I call him my sheep in wolf's clothing.
Andria
That temper. 
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When someone says,"I could care less".
It's I COULDN'T people!
Unless they're saying it sarcastically.
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i encountered one of my own pet peeves just today. I was taking a nap, as I've been under the weather lately, and resting a lot seems to help. Not too long before I had asked my husband to wake me, I was awakened quite rudely by some drive-up guests of the teenagers across the street... the fact that they are drive-up guests is the point; the pet peeve is their fucking GODDAMNED ANNOYING THUMPING BASS THAT SHAKES THE WHOLE FUCKING NEIGHBORHOOD FOR 5 STREETS IN EVERY GODDAMNED DIRECTION.
I have never wished for a rocket launcher so much in my life. And i wouldn't even limit it to the car with the annoying bass, but go ahead and take out the whole house across the street; if no one lives there anymore, no more goddamned idiots driving up with an earthquake in their car.
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I have never wished for a rocket launcher so much in my life. And i wouldn't even limit it to the car with the annoying bass, but go ahead and take out the whole house across the street; if no one lives there anymore, no more goddamned idiots driving up with an earthquake in their car.
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While I'm not tiny guy, if I don't have a cart, I can fly through a store very quickly, get to what I need, get to the registers, get out. If I have to use a cart, I go no slower than needed to not flip the damned thing, so if I come up people blocking an isle, I give them about two seconds, then proceed with my favorite motivator:I hate going to the grocery, but I like food, so I have to go to the damn grocery. Never fails, when I'm there, I run across at least 6 pairs of people, each with a shopping cart, just standing in the middle of the aisle, at the ends of aisles, any random space they can park their damn carts, just running their yaps. I give them 2 seconds of me standing there, staring, then, "EXCUSE ME!"... "oh, I'm blocking the aisle". Yeah. Move.
"I hate to be as rude as you shits, but if you don't move your fat asses, I'll run them over."
This coming from a 300lbs guy, I don't take to people well, irritates my wife, till she needs to motivate someone, then comes asking me to call someone stupid a few times.
If I do stop to talk to someone in a store, I make a habit of moving into the nearest side isle and try not to take up any room so people can get through, I hate when others do it, so I sure as hell won't do it myself.
I've resorted to spanking my daughter only a few times, and for the most part now all I need to do is say her name in what my wife dubs "dad voice" and it gets her attention, if that doesn't, I've resorted to the occasional Gibs smack to the back of the head, never hard just enough to say "hey head out of ass", tell ya what though girl has some quick reflexes thanks to that though, dodged a few of them now.
I've only ever held spanking is to be used as the last resort, where if nothing sinks in. I know I got the belt more than a few times, and even once had to cut a switch for my step dad to use on us boys "because that's how he was raised".
