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It has to get down to around 20 deg here to get any static issues.
I am full of static electricity. I have more static than anyone I know. It's probably because of my rubber shoe bottoms.
And happy halloween eve to you!
Wow!My first no sugar Halloween ever
Is it really Halloween then?
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It will be tomorrow!
Got candy ready for the kids and haven't filched a single piece, lol
Well that sucks.My first no sugar Halloween ever
You have a lot more willpower than me. If it's in front of me I will eat it.
Now that takes more willpower than I have.
Hats off to ya for sticking to your guns.
The Attack of the Nematodes.
double Damn!
Can't even mention nematodes without it making it a link.
A vast nematode conspiracy!
double Damn!
Can't even mention nematodes without it making it a link.
A vast nematode conspiracy!
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If sugar made you feel bad and you hadn't touched it in several months you could
Got over the jones a few months back finally
It's late fall and the Indians on a remote reservation in South Dakota
asked their new chief if the coming winter was going to be cold or mild.
Since he was a chief in a modern society, he had never been taught the old
secrets. When he looked at the sky, he couldn't tell what the winter was
going to be like.
Nevertheless, to be on the safe side, he told his tribe that the winter
was indeed going to be cold and that the members of the village should
collect firewood to be prepared.
But, being a practical leader, after several days, he got an idea. He went
to the phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked, 'Is the
coming winter going to be cold?'
'It looks like this winter is going to be quite cold,' the meteorologist
at the weather service responded.
So the chief went back to his people and told them to collect even more
firewood in order to be prepared.
A week later, he called the National Weather Service again. 'Does it still
look like it is going to be a very cold winter?'
'Yes,' the man at National Weather Service again replied, 'it's going to
be a very cold winter.'
The chief again went back to his people and ordered them to collect every
scrap of firewood they could find.
Two weeks later, the chief called the National Weather Service again. 'Are
you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?'
'Absolutely,' the man replied. 'It's looking more and more like it is
going to be one of the coldest winters we've ever seen.'
'How can you be so sure?' the chief asked..
The weatherman replied, 'The Indians are collecting firewood like crazy.'
Remember this story whenever you ask advice from any government official!
asked their new chief if the coming winter was going to be cold or mild.
Since he was a chief in a modern society, he had never been taught the old
secrets. When he looked at the sky, he couldn't tell what the winter was
going to be like.
Nevertheless, to be on the safe side, he told his tribe that the winter
was indeed going to be cold and that the members of the village should
collect firewood to be prepared.
But, being a practical leader, after several days, he got an idea. He went
to the phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked, 'Is the
coming winter going to be cold?'
'It looks like this winter is going to be quite cold,' the meteorologist
at the weather service responded.
So the chief went back to his people and told them to collect even more
firewood in order to be prepared.
A week later, he called the National Weather Service again. 'Does it still
look like it is going to be a very cold winter?'
'Yes,' the man at National Weather Service again replied, 'it's going to
be a very cold winter.'
The chief again went back to his people and ordered them to collect every
scrap of firewood they could find.
Two weeks later, the chief called the National Weather Service again. 'Are
you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?'
'Absolutely,' the man replied. 'It's looking more and more like it is
going to be one of the coldest winters we've ever seen.'
'How can you be so sure?' the chief asked..
The weatherman replied, 'The Indians are collecting firewood like crazy.'
Remember this story whenever you ask advice from any government official!
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Get a cool-mist humidifier; it not only *dampens* (ar ar) static, but keeps your sinuses and breathing passages moist and comfy. Target has them for very reasonable prices; I got one that's intended for a baby's room, since I figured those would be safest for unattended (overnight) use... so I don't wake up feeling I just huffed the Sahara.
Got mine off the shelf last night; it needs to be cleaned up and dusted before use... but when I moved it, I forgot it still had water in the base, so it was heavy; I dropped the base on my foot, hopped around hollering and cussing for a half hour because it hurts like HELL when you drop something hard on the instep of your foot... and just fucking left it sitting on the counter after that. Reckon I'll get it cleaned up this week.
I had to get one of those after I started vaping, the dehydration is so much worse now; wish I'd gotten one 20 yrs ago.
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If sugar made you feel bad and you hadn't touched it in several months you could
Got over the jones a few months back finally
I've always got all kinds of junk in my house -- chocolate, pop-tarts, cookies, etc. I grew up a long time ago; if I eat any of that, I do so very moderately. And I need to eat the high-cacao chocolate for the magnesium it contains.
The main thing I really can't have in my house is stuff like fresh baked goods -- muffins, pies, cakes, donuts.... that shit has a very short life expectancy in my house, and makes my weight go NUTS. So I don't buy it. Ever.
Andria
I have a small one that I turned on this weekend. That hurts SOOOOOO bad when things fall on your foot like that.
I'm bumming today. I just need to STOP thinking about Christmas. I haven't been to my sister's house since June last year when she threw me out in a drunkin' rage.
My son and dil asked me to go so I agreed. I'm getting a motel though and then staying a night at my Uncle Buddy's. Now, I find out they invited my nephew (my sister's son), who has NO car -- (and invited his girlfriend), and borrowed my car to drive a few months ago to Louisiana. I'm sick of people using me. We invited Meghan's grandmother so there's not really enough room in my son's vehicle for all these people. I can no longer drive that long trip with my neck issues. I just don't even know if I want to go now. Also found out the grandmother is moving in with my son and dil. They stopped paying me the student loan money 2 months ago (which I stupidly put in MY name) since they found out they were going to have a baby. It just seems I'm always the one doing EVERYTHING for my family and constantly being put last. 
Atcha, they are grown people and responsible for their own actions.
Put yourself first some.
Put yourself first some.
I did finally. I just texted my son and told him I couldn't afford to go. They can all stay at my sister's for free and he will now have room in his car for John. I'm not lending my cars to them anymore. I have 2 vehicles because I live alone out in the country and it's so convenient when one gets a flat to just take the other.
I just cried my eyes out, but I end up buying ALL the groceries when we go there and I've become a taxi service for my nephew since my sister moved back.
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I have a small one that I turned on this weekend. That hurts SOOOOOO bad when things fall on your foot like that.
I'm bumming today. I just need to STOP thinking about Christmas. I haven't been to my sister's house since June last year when she threw me out in a drunkin' rage.
I agree with Cromwell; you need to stop letting all these life-sucking leeches take you for a ride -- stand up for yourself; they may get mad, but they'll respect you a lot more. And if they don't... no loss -- who needs a bunch of life-sucking leeches who don't respect you?
Our son is living with us now, going to school; we're paying higher auto insurance, and we pay his phone -- but we told him, if the food stamps stop, then he must get a J-O-B because we can't do all that AND feed him, the way he eats. So he's doing the math tutoring thing so the food stamps don't stop.
Andria
My brother-in-law said I do all this stuff for them and all they do in return is shit on me. So, I'm done. If I don't take care of ME I won't be able to retire in 2 years. And I have to. My neck isn't going to last much longer.
Thank you!!! I feel better now! Thanks to you guys. I feel stronger now. I feel like bricks fell off my shoulders. They don't have anything to do with me until they "want" something. Then, it's Aunt Linda to the rescue. No more.
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I had a good cry when my first sober xmas rolled around, and I had to decline the invite to my uncle's house -- because everyone always drank there, and I knew if I went, i'd get a big fat resentment about not being able to drink. So I cried for about a half hour... then realized that was stupid; no matter what my mother said, it was MY OWN LIFE I was saving, and her opinion was irrelevant. My uncle, and my aunt Betty, both respected my decision and said they looked forward to seeing me the next year -- and they did; by then, I had sobriety well down-pat, and others drinking didn't bother me at all. And my family -- the ones who haven't died of cirrhosis or had a liver transplant because of it -- all respect the fact that I'm sober.
Andria
Go girl GO!
I'm proud to remind you of your Aunt Betty.
I'm also very proud of YOU Andria! That's a huge accomplishment.
One thing appears certain those you have been discussing will not be helping you out after you retire in any case.
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She is the most wonderful person -- she reminds me of her dad, my Pop, who was the most wonderful person I've ever known -- he taught me the meaning of unconditional love, when I was young and got in trouble with the law, he was there to vist me every weekend, bringing money and cigarettes (back when jails still permitted either of them!), no matter his disappointment with me.
Betty turned 85 on the 21st. But still looks *easily* 20-25 yrs younger than that.
Andria
I know. I just feel so incredibly alone in this life sometimes.
I'm so glad you still have her. I give my son unconditional love as well. He called me when I sent him the text. Saying he won't won't go to Louisiana without me. And for me not to worry about spending any money.
yes, but sometimes alone is best.....
I enjoying alone time but I also enjoy the company of people too.
But at the cost of being with them making you more miserable?
I suspect that after retirement you will be best to keep busy with a job or volunteer work.
I will. I'll keep busy.
My sister is the only one that makes me miserable. The others just use my money
Hope all you guys have a lovely evening. I feel a lot better and thanks to you all!
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I missed jumping in to support you earlier - but you did the right thing
You can't live in a vacuum and let your relations suck the life out of you - family relationships require give and take or you just become a doormat
It's why I only see or keep in touch with a small handful of relatives - most of the other ones would suck the life out of me if I let them
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I missed jumping in to support you earlier - but you did the right thing
You can't live in a vacuum and let your relations suck the life out of you - family relationships require give and take or you just become a doormat
It's why I only see or keep in touch with a small handful of relatives - most of the other ones would suck the life out of me if I let them
I have a been a doormat for a long time. And I am a very generous person too. I guess that's why it bothers me when others don't treat me the same way. Which really isn't fair to them either. Everyone is different that's what makes us all unique and special. But I have been treated unfairly and I'm very glad that my son called me earlier.
Was only 85 today. First day I've worn a heavy jacket since last April.....
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Yur a sweetheart, Atcha...things can only get better, and they will..!
Finding balance in that is quite the struggle at times. This is why I so prefer communication over the internet & Web. Wife kind of fuses I don't 'get out' more for hm, interpersonal relationships. She though is as bad if not a bit worse than me for being shut in.
Happy Halloween to all you Fugees.
Same to you!!!!
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Finding balance in that is quite the struggle at times. This is why I so prefer communication over the internet & Web. Wife kind of fuses I don't 'get out' more for hm, interpersonal relationships. She though is as bad if not a bit worse than me for being shut in.
That's just one of the ways in which my husband and I are very well-suited; neither of us has a bit of use for "going out" for the sake of going out. I used to enjoy restaurants, and certainly bars... but I quit drinking, and I have to be so careful what I eat... so we simply stay at home -- and now and then enjoy some healthy fast-food like subway or taco hell -- none of that greasy burger shit. My mom simply refused to even try and understand it, how much we enjoy simply staying home -- now that we have a nice home of our own, where else would we want to be?
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Sam who?And Happy Samhain to you.
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Happy Halloween all yall goblin and ghoulish fugees
At times ya just have to say fuck'em @Atchafalaya , let them know your not some kind of rug for them to wipe their feet all over. I had to do that and am a lot happier for it. My sis tells me I am not family because I wont give her every cent I have. Ok, never liked that drama queen too much anyways
. The ex is pissed because I dont pay her bills anymore and demanded she pay the insurance on her new truck that is on our policy. Way I see it, so what if she is pissed. Point is, if they love you just because they can use you, then thats not really love at all. Stop letting others use ya and you too will be a lot happier
At times ya just have to say fuck'em @Atchafalaya , let them know your not some kind of rug for them to wipe their feet all over. I had to do that and am a lot happier for it. My sis tells me I am not family because I wont give her every cent I have. Ok, never liked that drama queen too much anyways
. The ex is pissed because I dont pay her bills anymore and demanded she pay the insurance on her new truck that is on our policy. Way I see it, so what if she is pissed. Point is, if they love you just because they can use you, then thats not really love at all. Stop letting others use ya and you too will be a lot happier
Great advice! I'm slowly but surely following it these days. Glad you are too.Happy Halloween all yall goblin and ghoulish fugees
At times ya just have to say fuck'em @Atchafalaya , let them know your not some kind of rug for them to wipe their feet all over. I had to do that and am a lot happier for it. My sis tells me I am not family because I wont give her every cent I have. Ok, never liked that drama queen too much anyways