That was fairly my mom's view. "Before you're a lover, be a friend. Understand you don't change anyone but you."
She said she tried raising three boys what had heads with more than muscle in them on their shoulders. It suited her seeing her first boy turned into a fine man, even though he does frighten her. *chuckles* Think it is because I am so alike her and her father. None of us are keen to tolerate shit, nor do we try going out of the way to cause it for anyone else. Sure, we're insane, relax though we're mostly harmless.
One day, mom was talking to someone on her cell phone. "Hey, hold on," she said to them. "I've got to go find my cell phone so I can call you back." Me and the wife stood there and hesitated. Mom actually hung up on the person and started looking for her cell phone. Then, we laughed like hell. It was worse than her walking around with her glasses pushed up on her head, "can't find my glasses, you seen them?" ... "Ummmm, on your head, mom."
Wife says I have only one speed. Git 'er done! She on the other hand is a slow poky turtle. She mellows me out, all twenty five me.
I go running in all directions at once, not exactly knowing where I go. I'm alright with it. Figure, I'll get there quicker.
Learning now as this silly *ahem* growing older thing creeps on, I no longer multi-task, focus needs to be one thing at a time. So is life.