My mother didn't really take responsibility for hers either much. I had to force her to do her physical therapy. I felt like a drill sergeant sometimes. It is what it is Andria. Like Lucy said, your feelings are normal. Do what you must.
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I spent the last 2 years of my mothers life being a co-caregiver with a sister.
She died of dementia, Alzheimer's ?
Was VERY rough....
Did not think I could do it till I did.
She died of dementia, Alzheimer's ?
Was VERY rough....
Did not think I could do it till I did.
Wow Croms, I had no idea! Me and my sister were co-caregivers for my mom for almost 4 years. It was extremely difficult. My whole life was in a fog during that time. And it took another few years to get out of the fog.
My mother died of kidney failure. The doc prescribed too much digoxin for her congestive heart failure.
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I'm back at the hospital. The decision has been made to turn off life support, because her vital signs are declining sharply even WITH life support. There is no more hope for any sort of recovery, if in fact she's not gone already. We're just waiting for my stepfather's daughter to get here.
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Hang in there sweetie. Thinking of you.
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So sorry Andria -
Hugs Andria, we are here for you if you need anything.
May Love and peace surround you in this time of sorrow Andria. I'm sending as many Good vibes and as much strength as I can your direction. 
Sorry to hear this Andria, while it's just a forum if there's anything I can do. I'm here.
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My mother's body's suffering ended a little after 4pm, a little over an hour ago... but I think she was already gone. I went in just briefly right after we got here, but there was no sense of *her* at all. I'm taking a break out in the truck, to vape, and get away from all my crying relatives. But I have no earthly idea how I'll deal with life, without a mother, no matter the problems we've always had. But at least her pain and suffering is over. RIP, Mama.
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Oh Andria honey. You'll deal with life without her. You will. It's going to be tough at first, but trust me, it WILL get better. I promise! I don't know anyone that had a perfect relationship with their mom, and only a few that had a great one. But it doesn't matter. She was your mother, and you loved her. And she knew that.
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I'm so, so sorry.
Oh Andria, I'm so sorry hun. I know you were preparing for it, but I know it's still gonna be a very difficult time for you. Again, we are all here for you, prayers for you and your family.
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Yes it's one of those times that you WISH you could jump through the forum to be there and give her that hug in person.Oh Andria, I'm so sorry hun. I know you were preparing for it, but I know it's still gonna be a very difficult time for you. Again, we are all here for you, prayers for you and your family.
Yep this!
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And comfort in the knowledge that, that distraction is better than the alternatives. I am proud of you and you still give me hope my friend. If you need me I am around.
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And comfort in the knowledge that, that distraction is better than the alternatives. I am proud of you and you still give me hope my friend. If you need me I am around.
Well, we went to Subway to get sandwiches for dinner; they didn't have the carved turkey, but they had turkey breast, and I'm currently frying up some bacon to add to it (I hate theirs, they nuke it instead of frying it properly), and that smell is so wonderful after 3 days of "hospital." I hope I never see the inside of that fucking hospital again. And I got to hear my favorite Chili Peppers' song on the radio, "The Other Side." Fitting I guess, but if my mom had ever heard the Chili Peppers, I'm sure she'd have said TURN THAT SHIT OFF!
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Well, we went to Subway to get sandwiches for dinner; they didn't have the carved turkey, but they had turkey breast, and I'm currently frying up some bacon to add to it (I hate theirs, they nuke it instead of frying it properly), and that smell is so wonderful after 3 days of "hospital." I hope I never see the inside of that fucking hospital again. And I got to hear my favorite Chili Peppers' song on the radio, "The Other Side." Fitting I guess, but if my mom had ever heard the Chili Peppers, I'm sure she'd have said TURN THAT SHIT OFF!
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Sorry for your loss Andria, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
But on a different note, our hospital has a "restaurant" in it that's amazing. Locally sourced products, roof top garden. We've actually considered just going there to eat! When we lived in the hospital while the boy was in the NICU it's the only place we ate, the other cafeterias had okay food but you could tell it was mass produced and sitting for hours on end.
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Just something to help you chill....Well, we went to Subway to get sandwiches for dinner; they didn't have the carved turkey, but they had turkey breast, and I'm currently frying up some bacon to add to it (I hate theirs, they nuke it instead of frying it properly), and that smell is so wonderful after 3 days of "hospital." I hope I never see the inside of that fucking hospital again. And I got to hear my favorite Chili Peppers' song on the radio, "The Other Side." Fitting I guess, but if my mom had ever heard the Chili Peppers, I'm sure she'd have said TURN THAT SHIT OFF!
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Not really sure who that is, but I never liked that song. I dislike gratuitous violence intensely, along with anything that celebrates it. I think one of the only exceptions to that is Disturbed's "Down with the Sickness." I always liked that, for some reason -- frankly it beats the shit out of me, with that weird grunting noise he makes.
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At the same shit?!?
I'm so so sorry Andria. ((((Hugs))))
LOVE this song. I listen to SUCH varied stuff. Today, I put on googles "Creedence Clearwater Revival" radio station, feat. 3 Dog Night. OLD skoool muthafugee's.
I donno, it just too damn convenient. A billionaire goes his entire life without these accusations and all of a sudden a month before the election all these accusations surface. We have one candidate who lied and lied and lied. Lied to congress, lied to the FBI, lied to the American people, and her actions have cause Americans to die yet we are distracted by groping accusations? Really people?
Funny how people get all upset when they are considered sheeple..........
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Sorry for your loss @Andria
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All you guys...
As for me, why in hell am I awake at this hour? I didn't go to bed till, hell I dunno, 2 or 3. Woke up with a cramp in my foot/leg, walked it off, and couldn't go back to sleep. I'd love to think I'll take a nap this afternoon, but considering that yesterday was payday, the ol man is going to do the deposit today, and we have to do our grocerying at some point, I dunno if a nap is in the cards. I do know I'm going to forward my cellphone to my husband's, so that when someone in my family calls about an appt at a funeral home, the call can go to him; after 3 days of hospital, sickness, death, and tears, I NEED A FUCKING BREAK. I think they can handle putting on a funeral without me; I'll show up for the service.
I'm not a christian, though I was raised that way, and I remember a pertinent quote, which I never understood till now: "Let the dead bury the dead."
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As for me, why in hell am I awake at this hour? I didn't go to bed till, hell I dunno, 2 or 3. Woke up with a cramp in my foot/leg, walked it off, and couldn't go back to sleep. I'd love to think I'll take a nap this afternoon, but considering that yesterday was payday, the ol man is going to do the deposit today, and we have to do our grocerying at some point, I dunno if a nap is in the cards. I do know I'm going to forward my cellphone to my husband's, so that when someone in my family calls about an appt at a funeral home, the call can go to him; after 3 days of hospital, sickness, death, and tears, I NEED A FUCKING BREAK. I think they can handle putting on a funeral without me; I'll show up for the service.
I'm not a christian, though I was raised that way, and I remember a pertinent quote, which I never understood till now: "Let the dead bury the dead."
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Well, we went to Subway to get sandwiches for dinner; they didn't have the carved turkey, but they had turkey breast, and I'm currently frying up some bacon to add to it (I hate theirs, they nuke it instead of frying it properly), and that smell is so wonderful after 3 days of "hospital." I hope I never see the inside of that fucking hospital again. And I got to hear my favorite Chili Peppers' song on the radio, "The Other Side." Fitting I guess, but if my mom had ever heard the Chili Peppers, I'm sure she'd have said TURN THAT SHIT OFF!
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Sounds like my Dad, after I have been working on his truck and have changed it to the local alt. rock station. When he gets in and starts it up you would think he's trying to stop a car bomb from going off as fast as he reaches to change it. Sometimes I think about putting it on a local rap station but he carries a handgun in the truck.
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Sounds like my Dad, after I have been working on his truck and have changed it to the local alt. rock station. When he gets in and starts it up you would think he's trying to stop a car bomb from going off as fast as he reaches to change it. Sometimes I think about putting it on a local rap station but he carries a handgun in the truck.
Smart man! Anyone who ever set my radio on rap crap... I'D HUNT DOWN AND KILL SLOWLY.
It's just that my mom's generation of rock n roll was like, Elvis, Buddy Holly, Chuck Berry, et al....
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Smart man! Anyone who ever set my radio on rap crap... I'D HUNT DOWN AND KILL SLOWLY.
It's just that my mom's generation of rock n roll was like, Elvis, Buddy Holly, Chuck Berry, et al....
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Heh my Mom loved Elvis, Dad still calls him the Queen of Rock and Roll to this day.
Andria, it's this reason that I have planned my funeral, wrote it down and made sure EVERYONE involved know where to find the info. I want to be cremated, ashes thrown in a box, take a shovel to the cemetery, dig an appropriately sized hole at the end of my dad's plot and throw the box in the hole and cover it. I want it done at sundown with Braid Paisley and Dolly Parton singing when "I Get Where I'm Going". No service at all! Easy peasy!
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